Did I make a mistake by letting him go ?

Oh and another thing just to tell you how close we were... for our one year aniversary he proposed to me and at the time I said yes but then about 2 months down the road I told him that I thought we were moving to fast and I gave him the ring back. We always talked about moving in together and getting married and having kids you know all that good stuff. We also were um kinda in a sexual relationship like we never had sex but we did everything else so that also made us closer.

Hold on you were together for 6 years, you are 13 now and he proposed to you on your 1st anniversary?!!?! What are you playing at!?

Yes you have done the right thing

I'm sure that you and craig had a very very specialy relationship, and i'm not saying because of your age that it wasn't love although it is likely

However, at your age you are
a) not the person you will be as an adult. You change as you grow up and it is better to admit this now then when you realise you are an utterly different person
b) inexperienced with other guys. You need to be with other people before you can make any kind of situation like that.

The fact that you feel strangely about him being with somebody else is totally normal.

Consider this: you thought you were ready to spend the rest of your life with him but a month later he is with somebody else?

Yes you probably both have feelings for each other... but they may not be and probably are not enough to get you back together

If you are meant to be together as a couple, then in a few years when you're both more experienced you will get back together. Use this time to get to know you without him.

love and prayers xx

Re: Did I make a mistake by letting him go ?
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13 years old - dating since the age of 7. In love with a 24 year old for the past month.



You can't even begin to imagine what I'm thinking about your posts right now.

Ah, I just came to post the same link, ehBeth.
Jesfre must be a very busy child.

It's the same person?!?!

Oops didn't notice that...

Hmm maybe there's another reason for her change of heart re:craig!!

Well, she's apparently mad for the 15 AND the 24 year old at the same time.
Never loved anyone like she loves the 24 y.o., and regrets giving up Craig.

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I'm not sure my leg can be stretched any further.

Mmmmm, dating at age eight seems soooo early to me...

Perhaps this is a child/woman who is not accustomed to being listened to or taken seriously?

Perhaps. Or perhaps just someone looking for attention.

Or a combo.

Hey, jesfre, we wouldn't mind talking with the real you, if you feel like it. We even listen, but we don't have a lot of patience for other stories.

ehBeth ain't putting up with any crap, people.

ehBeth rarely puts up with crap, she just isolates it and looks at it with an eagle eye for a moment...
but she does have a heart, from time to time.

you guys don't understand me and craig were in love and I'm not saying I wanted to get back with him because at the moment I am not in love with him I am in love with the 24 year old for real this time but I was just asking if I made a mistake and should have just stuck with Craig thats all I was asking

Oh.

Tell us more about yourself, jesfre. It is not so easy to answer internet posts except by the exact words posted, and we are confused by your posts.

If you are 13 you need to forget about Craig.

As for the 24 year old, it appears you care so much about him you want him to spend 15 years in jail.

My advice.....
Go hang out at the mall with the other 8th graders for the next year. Get your braces off. Giggle about some stuff. Stop thinking about "love" until you are at least 15. And for goodness sake stop experimenting with sex. It will get you in trouble if you are only 13. (Not to mention putting the boys in jail for statutory rape.)

The rest of us posters, accept for jesfre, agree with you, Parados...

we are wondering if she will actually just talk to us, without all the constructed stories. We are hear to listen if she wants to talk as herself.

I am being honest about all of this guys please understand that at least. I know its hard to understand ok well here it goes. You alreayd know the whole thing about me and craig well alright about a year into our relationship is when we started experimenting sexual wise. well it was fun at the time and then about 2 months into being sexual with him I kinda woke up and relized we were taking things too fast. I also relized that I might not want to spend the rest of my life with this one guy being me as young as I am I still wanted to go out and experiment with guys and test other relationships. After I experimented with Craig and the whole sexual relationship I realized I didn't want to have sex or have a sexual relationship with anyone ; at least not yet being as young as I am. I understand everyone on that I just had to test it out for myself before I actually relized what I wanted in a relationship. Well after me and him broke up I relized after dating him for so long and then finally being single that I really did want to go out and date new people and experience a little more before I really settled down. Well about a week after we broke up Craig came up to my house and was begging for me back and at the time I wanted to get back with him but I didn't want to move to quick and give him an answer at that moment so I told him to go home and let me think about it well about 2 hours later I called him and I told him that I didn't want to go back out with him and I told him that I thought we had moved to quickly and we just needed to let things calm down a bit and maybe after a little while we could work on getting back together. Well after i told him that he got all fumed up and said well I never loved you in the first place and I didn't even really care about you ... Pretty much a load of crap. well its been about 3 weeks to a month that we've been broken up and about 2 weeks ago I started dating the 24 year old ( Please stop nagging on me about that). Thats pretty much the whole story. Now the thing I was asking in this post is Did I make a mistake by breaking up with Craig? No I don't want to go back to him and No I don't love him anymore I am just asking if maybe I should have stayed with him? I hope this post helps everyone understand a little better. I should have told everyone in the first place but I just felt a little funny about posting my feelings for everyone to see all over the world ya know ?

You're looking for trouble, kid -- and you're going to find it unless you make a choice to enjoy your childhood while you still have a chance. Adult relationships are for ADULTS.