ch wrote:hey i dont now how to start a new topic but sayin were on it i was just wondering if you could give me your opinions iv been going out with my gf for 9 month an i love her and are very attracted to her an all pretty girls but i look at some boys an think they are really good looking i dont think bout having sex with men an the thought does not turn me on but i just think a lot of men if i see a good looking man i will stare at them but not think sexual things just think their really good lookin an when i watch porn i got no intrest in lookin at the bloke always the girl but i dont now an i cant stop thinking bout it am i gay?
Yes, definitely gay; prepare for a lifetime in the closet, fearing discrimination in professional and social life, persecution by religious fanatics and hate crime!
But seriously, men are sexual animals and at times and places where their drive is high and there are few or no outlets it will be directed at basically everything that moves. All men have at one time in their life harboured some kind of fantasy about other men, many men have experimented in certain ways, as in masturbating together (see South Park), but that does not mean you are gay, so do not get upset.
Certain men are so scared of their sexual doubt and vague fantasies about other men that they become extremely macho gay-bashers and wife beaters, in other words, the most extreme homophobes are very insecure about their own sexual identity. They are scared to death that anyone might discover that they are secretly gay or bi (which is the same to them). A sure sign is how they are obsessed with the sexual aspect of homosexuality and not at all with the emotional aspect.
