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Thu 28 Apr, 2005 09:12 pm
I have a problem. I have recently gotten married at a young age (21)and think that I may have "jumped the bandwagon" because everyone else was doing it. I do love my wife and don't know what I would do without her. Even the thought of being without her makes me shutter. But I also have had this urge to have sex with another man. Every time I look at porno either it be on the internet or magazine I look at men. Very rarely do I look at women and if I do i focus on the man more than the woman. I recently asked my wife if I could try having sex with another man just once to see if my assumption was right. But she said that she wants to wait until our relationship gets better. The only problem with that is, "What if I am GAY" I would have wasted her time and mine. I need help please!!!
Yes, you're gay. Next question!
Like I just posted on another thread, it's not necessarily either/or. There is a range, and you could be bi with more or less orientation towards men. Do you have sex with your wife? Is it enjoyable?
If you are sexually fulfilled in your current relationship, you might not have to worry about being sexually attracted to men, too. If you're not...
Are you religious? Is there a specific reason you haven't acted on this and wanted to get married instead?
Or, you're bi-sexual.....?
Oh jesus, here we go with this scale crap again...yeah, there is a scale and when you get on it, it says "GAY".
Why make this more complicated for the guy? Everything that he said points to the fact that he's gay.
If you think you might be gay, then you may be. You also may be bi-sexual.
How long have you known that you've been attracted to men?
Kicky
Don't make me come over there!
Hey, I'm just trying to help the guy with the no-nonsense honest approach.
But I'm bored with this now though, so I'll let you guys all take it from here.
Seeya!
Yeah, but you gotta use gentle hands ;-)
I'm using my gentle hands right now...
Thank you for replying so quickly. I have had this feeling since I was 14. Some would say that I was just curious but shouldn't the curiosity have gone by now? I am not very religous but I lean more torward Christianity than any other. The only rerason I dont have a major religion and act upon it is because of their ignorence torward gay or lesbian people. But thats another topic I dont have time for. The only thing it may be is that fact that I havent really done much to satisfy my curiosity. I have had oral sex with another man but my wife was there in the room and I didnt feel comfortable. I feel to actually find out if I am or not is too do it by myself. But I don't want to hurt my wife or our relationship. Thank you kicky for your blunt post but if you dont have anything more to say than YOU'RE GAY then please don't post. I need help not critcism. I am sure if I am gay I will have enough without your comments.
What!? I answered your question, didn't I? Sheesh, nobody likes "straight" shooters these days...
I hope this works out for you, but I am able to tell you one thing. If you had oral sex with a man and no one was holding a gun to your head, then you are undoubtedly at least bisexual. No straight man would do that voluntarily.
Drew
It sounds to me that you may be either gay or bi-sexual. I know it's been asked before, but do you get pleasure out of making love with your wife?
I do get pleasure out of making love with my wife. Actually until I met her I never used to get an erection.
Then you can't just simply be gay. You are more than likely bisexual.
That's where women have the advantage. Any girl can sleep with say, a half dozen guys every year and no one calls her a whore, but if our buddy Drew here sucks just ONE dick to see if he likes it.....branded for life. So sad, so unfair.
If she has oral sex with one woman and enjoys it- is she gay? If her husband is in the room watching does that make him married to a gay woman or just lucky?
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