@hightor,
It's so true. How can you win every battle yet loose the war. Easy, it's their home. When we leave, they're still there. It's their home. “You can kill ten of my men for every one I kill of yours. But even at those odds, you will lose and I will win.” —Viet Minh leader Ho Chi Minh in a warning to French colonialists in 1946.
Ho actually admired America. He petitioned Woodrow Wilson in France at the Versailles Peace Conference in 1919 to help Vietnam rid itself of French control. With a negative response he turned to Communism. He tried again during WWII with ridding their Japanese burden and then not let France retake their colonial mastery of them. FDR turned him down even though he, with an OSS assessment believed that Ho was more a Nationalist and would turn down Communism at a drop of the hat if he got American help.
Then, when the fighting with France became very severe and France was "losing" (don't forget the 10 to 1 kill ratio, which would remain accurate for another 20-25 years) Eisenhower turned him down. This was true, even though we knew Ho Chi Minh truly wanted a democracy with American help and we knew we would be able to save France's financial interests (Michelin, opium, others) and save face to boot. Win, win, win for everybody - Eisenhower turned him down and we would start fighting a split country in the late 50's in a secret war; turning to an open war in the 60's.
Yes, we win all the battles and lose the war because we are hard headed and can't accept victory in the "right" way, with a win, win, win for everybody!