Hi Gang,
Heeven, your post gave me a good laugh this morning. You know, I love to talk and love to make new friends so feel free to call. As for the, er, "boink fest", well, I'll have to refrain from commenting on that one in a public forum.

(but all bets are off in private.....hehehehe)
Lady J, you are right. My wife has pretty much shut down emotionally. She has even isolated herself from all of her friends. She won't call them or go to see them and when I go over to our friend's houses, it's always by myself. I usually end up feeling like a fifth wheel because everyone else has their husband or wife with them. I hate that because then I have to explain why Beth didn't come with me AGAIN. I gave up on trying to make excuses for her and just tell everyone who asks that she has just isolated herself and she is going to have to pull herself out of it because no matter what I say, it doesn't help.
Last night was the night from Hell at my house. My son asked me what was wrong and so I told him that I didn't think mom wanted to be married to me anymore. He said, "but she loves you." I said that yes, she may love me but she's not in love with me. I asked him when was the last time he saw her hug me, touch me, kiss me, make eyes at me, or anything like that and he couldn't remember. He then talked to her about it. I was upstairs painting my bathroom and heard him ask her if she loved me anymore and if she wanted to be married to me. I heard her say yes she did and then he said, "They why the hell don't you ever touch dad?" She said she didn't know and then didn't really talk to me for the rest of the night. It should be something they see us do EVERY DAMN DAY! Kids learn about affection and intimacy from their parents. They learn from me how to treat a woman and my daughter should learn from my wife as to how to treat a man. I feel very sorry for my daughter's husband if she follows my wife's lead. He'll be out the door in no time. My daughter is the apple of my eye and receives affection from me constantly and so I hope that she knows that is how she should be treated by a man. She is almost 14 now and is getting into that phase where she pushes me away but she does it while laughing because I will give her a big hug and then blow on her neck to make funny noises. She cringes, laughs, and yells for help but we have so much fun. I love that. I used to do that with Beth but not anymore. Her loss I guess.
Moving right along... Devious Britches, all three children are mine. My wife and I were both virgins when we got married because we felt that sex was meant for married couples. We dated for almost three years and then got married (actually, we eloped but that is another story). We, um, attempted to consummate our marriage that night but we couldn't. In fact, as it turns out, we weren't able to consummate our marriage until about 13 months later because any time we tried to have intercourse, it would cause her a lot of pain and I just didn't want to hurt her. We kept trying to no avail. I guess I'm one of the few people married who didn't have sex until 13 months AFTER the wedding night. SIGH...... As far as her libido after our children were born, it was fine. In fact, it lasted until well after my youngest was born. And then it just shut off like a faucet. I had to give up sex cold turkey. That's not really my favorite way to give it up, nor would sex be my choice of things to give up cold turkey anyway...hehehe
You know, when I go to the beach or the mall (or anywhere for that matter) and I see the ladies hanging on their guy's arm or stroking their hair with their fingers or laughing and joking with them, I get all teary eyed because I long for that soooooooo much. I love romance, I love touch, I love hugs, and I LOVE to spoil a woman in every possible way..... I love long foreplay, fireplaces, bear skin rugs, hot tubs, and just being able to look into the eyes of the one I love and please her to the utmost of my abilities but she doesn't want that at all. What's a guy to do, ya know???
I think today I'm going to start looking for a good counselor. I didn't get to do it yesterday because I had other things to attend to but I'll start making some calls today. Fortunately my company will pay for it all (except maybe a small co-pay). This lady was my high-school sweetheart. We dated from my sophomore year until right after I got out of boot camp from the Navy and then we got married. I think that's worth at least trying to save and so I'll give it my best shot.
Thanks for all your support! You are all awesome! I feel better just being able to talk about it with you even though you are all complete unknowns to me (but I do look forward to learning more about you all and being friends!!)
Need to run....I hear a hot lunch calling my name!!
Mike