@Anon54321,
Anon54321 wrote: The other guy is trying to repair things with his wife
if you truly love him (vs being in love) help him with what he wants - which is repairing his marriage. back off - ask for a transfer at work - move (it's a good time for you to move on as your marriage is already over) . get on with your own life.
if he is unable to repair his marriage, he may consider you as a partner in the future. the reality is that the affair partner rarely becomes the next life partner but there could be a chance - esp if he had a sense that you had not tried to interfere with him trying to save his marriage.
congrats on asking for the divorce yourself. follow-through with that.