First off, feel free to tell me how much of a monster I am but please know I won’t read or engage in any of those posts. I’m truly just looking for some perspective on different situations.
I started sleeping with a married coworker almost a year ago. First we were friends and things just ended up progressing very unexpectedly. To the point where we were both discussing our “next marriage” to one another. This went on until December in which my husband found out about the affair and blew the whole thing up by telling the guys wife. Since then we’ve tried to stay away from another but it seems like the connection we have and self control is making things difficult. We are now back together again.
The situations at home: I have asked for a divorce from my husband. During the last two months my husband has engaged with the other guys wife several times via email and text and send her all the “evidence” he could find including long conversations about how in love this guy and I are. The other guy is trying to repair things with his wife for the sake of his kids and is going to a psychiatrist to get on meds to help with his depression he’s now experiencing.
The wife refuses to think that we’re still in love and seeing each other but she’s treating him like a lower animal than a flea on a dog. I understand it’s her right but as his friend and somebody that loves him it’s difficult to watch but the other guy is in self punishing and martyring himself because he knows he’s earned it.
I would like the wife to find out about our still on-going affair anonymously even though I know it’s mean and vindictive. I’d like to hear some ideas on how she can find out or receive an anonymous tip about the affair again. The wife and my husband have ceased communication now and it didn’t end well. He kept telling her the affair was on-going and she called him out for being a crazy liar and won’t listen to him anymore. I also need it never to lead back to me since I don’t want to ruin my relationship with the other guy too. Any help (without judgement) is really appreciated.
The other guy is trying to repair things with his wife
He doesn’t see a way he can live without tucking his kids in every night. His words, not mine