The no contact is so that he reaches out to me. That was the point of it, so that he questions his choice of the break up, so he misses me. I'm not supposed to ignore him...
Yes, you are supposed to ignore him. That's what no contact means. If you two want to be together, then be together. If you want to break up, then break up. Playing these games doesn't help anyone. If you are going to text him, tell him this.
If someone breaks up with me... I don't talk to them until they tell me clearly that they want to be with me again. And then, I will only talk to them if I am sure I want to be with them again.
You could talk as friends. But this only can work if neither of you is playing games. I have continued as friends with a couple of ex-girlfriends. But generally there needs to be a time apart before this happens, and both people need to be honest and no play games.