@Olivier5,
Olivier5 wrote:
I never called her a crybaby. I called you one, and Ed. You're a victim too, Izzy?
Everyone has experienced victimization in some way or no one would even be able to understand the concept.
Calling people 'crybabies' is a tactic to subjugate victims into not complaining about being victimized. Don't do that.
If you want to complain about crying/whining, do it regarding 'crocodile tears,' where people pretend to cry/whine in order to claim victim status, which they expect will get them some power/leverage they wouldn't get otherwise.
The problem is that because empathy and respect for victims is natural, there are going to be people who try to exploit that natural reaction for power. It is just part of the dark side of the human condition. If you try to stop it by ending empathy altogether, you end up with hard-hearted people.
So I guess we will just always be at the mercy of liars and their crocodile tears, at least until the village people stop believing the cries of 'wolf' and end up hard-hearted to real tears because all those crocodile tears have pushed them beyond the point where they have any place left in their hearts to believe in real tears. It's sad that happens, but it is interesting that fake-victim narratives are the ammunition that end up destroying true empathy for real victims. You would think it would be the bullying that does it, but it ends up taking lying about fake victimization to totally undermine the humane heart.