It was probably 40 years ago when I was at a small dinner party my friend from work had invited me. I think there were maybe 7 people at the dinner, but I only remember one young fellow, one young woman, the host and myself. It wasn’t a big wingding, conversation flowed from topic to topic and I don’t remember why this young man brought it up, but he launched into a theory about women lib and how so many men were being persecuted because angry girls were exacting revenge, accusing innocent men of rape and how unfair it was. What I found so compelling is was his delivery, he seemed to trivialize the situation as laughable. The table got very quiet, everyone (I guess) wondering why he brought it up.........then very quietly, the young woman started to speak without any anger and told the people at the table about her rape. She had been moving furniture into a new apartment, several trips were needed. She set up her bedroom, put sheets and pillows on the bed. The whole day was devoted to moving in, putting pots and pans away, stocking the fridge, all the things you
need to do when you are setting up a new residence. Sometime later she finally put herself to bed, maybe slept for 20 or 30 minutes when she was woken by a man who held one of her kitchen knives to her throat. He had slipped in at god only knows what time and hid in a closet....just waited for everyone to leave. Once she fell asleep, he told her he would kill her if she looked at him or screamed or called for help....then he raped her.
It was sobering, and I wish I could say I was able to offer her some help or understanding, or freaking solace. I was stunned that she said it out loud, and I truly believe she was telling the truth. Her rapist was never found, I’m not even sure if she reported it. But most women recognize the situation, the rapists don’t always hide in your closet, but they will get to you.
And for Max, just because women have been raped or beaten doesn’t mean women don’t care about other gender assaults. It’s all ugly, despicable and soul sucking. Plus we need to protect our children, boys and girls from women and men. It happens, nobody says it doesn’t. Just sober up skippy, Edgar started this whole thing by referencing his own experiences. He sure as hell isnt the only man who was every threatened or assaulted as either a young boy or young man. It happens and you know it does. It continues because victims are shamed and afraid to speak up. It really doesn’t matter if the criminal is male or female, and you know that as well. Stop trying to defend sexual predators.