Me Too

It is important that female desire expresses itself in the form of "no, I do not want that" as much as in the form of "yes, that's what I want".

When one is curious, one realizes that feminine pleasure is not so complicated, cerebral and sacred as that... And male pleasure can be much more subtle than some people think!

I would absolutely love for women to initiate sex. If feminists are able to get women to change their behavior in this way... I would become a feminist. In reality it is rare, and before you make the snarky response that maybe it's me, the data are pretty clear that women rarely initiate with any man.

I was, as a young man, and (I daresay still am) a rather bookish thin guy with eyeglasses. I do not think that all or even most of the women who "initiated sex" with me did so because they thought I was a wildly handsome testosterone jockey.

Believe me I have wondered about this!

I think that things I had in my favour may have been that I think I am a fairly easygoing type of person to be with, fairly relaxed, I am a bit of a joker, I think I probably came over as someone who would probably not become a millstone around a girl's neck after a shag, Also I think sometimes the women were bored and thought a shag with me would pass the time nicely or just be fun. I do think a cogent point is that I probably didn't come across as the kind of guy who thought of sex with a girl as a "success" or a "goal".

centrox wrote:

I think that things I had in my favour may have been that I think I am a fairly easygoing type of person to be with, fairly relaxed, I am a bit of a joker, I think I probably came over as someone who would probably not become a millstone around a girl's neck after a shag, Also I think sometimes the women were bored and thought a shag with me would pass the time nicely or just be fun. I do think a cogent point is that I probably didn't come across as the kind of guy who thought of sex with a girl as a "success" or a "goal".

that's a heaping pile of things to have in your favour

I used to have a girlfriend,
But I guess she just couldn't compete,
With all of these love-starved women,
Who keep cowering at my feet
Oh I probably could find me another,
But I guess they're all in awe of me
Who cares?
I never get lonesome
Cause I treasure my own company

Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
When you're perfect in every way
I can't wait to look in the mirror
Cause I get better looking each day
To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man
Oh Lord It's hard to be humble,
But I'm doing the best that I can

#MeToo movement lawmaker Cristina Garcia investigated for sexual misconduct allegations
By CARLA MARINUCCI , 02/08/2018

SAN FRANCISCO — California Assemblywoman Cristina Garcia — whose high-profile advocacy of the #MeToo movement earned her national media notice — is herself the subject of a state legislative investigation in the wake of a report that she sexually harassed and groped a former legislative staffer.

In December, when Time magazine announced that “Silence Breakers” who spoke out against sexual harassment were its Persons of the Year, Garcia’s face was prominently included in the art accompanying the cover story.

But Daniel Fierro of Cerritos told POLITICO that in 2014, as a 25-year-old staffer to Assemblyman Ian Calderon, he was groped by Garcia, a powerful Democratic lawmaker who chairs the Legislative Women’s Caucus and the Natural Resources Committee.

He said she cornered him alone after the annual Assembly softball game in Sacramento as he attempted to clean up the dugout. Fierro, who said Garcia appeared inebriated, said she began stroking his back, then squeezed his buttocks and attempted to touch his crotch before he extricated himself and quickly left.

Fierro said he never reported the incident, which occurred years before the current #MeToo movement and new whistleblower legislation to protect legislative staffers. But after he mentioned the issue last January to Calderon, his former boss, the matter was then referred to the Assembly Rules Committee, which launched an investigation.

Fierro is not the only one claiming improper advances by Garcia. A prominent Sacramento lobbyist says she also accosted him in May 2017, when she cornered him, made a graphic sexual proposal, and tried to grab his crotch at a political fundraiser. He spoke to POLITICO on the condition of anonymity out of fear of reprisals.

The lobbyist, who represents a major industry association, said that Garcia appeared to have been drinking heavily at a fundraiser hosted by Governor Jerry Brown for state Senator Josh Newman at the de Veres bar in Sacramento. He said he was heading out the door in part to avoid the assemblywoman — who had been increasingly “flirtatious” and had called him on a few occasions before for late night drinks which he repeatedly declined.

She spotted him and said,“Where are you going?” the lobbyist said.

“She came back and was whispering real close and I could smell the booze and see she was pretty far gone,’’ he said. “She looked at me for a second and said, “I’ve set a goal for myself to **** you.”

At that point, Garcia “stepped in front of me and reaches out and is grabbing for my crotch,’’ he said. That was “the line in the sand,” according to the lobbyist, and he stopped her. “I was four inches from her, eyeball to eyeball -- and I said, ‘That ain’t gonna happen.’” [...]

Jessica Levinson, a professor of law and political ethics at Loyola Law School of Los Angeles — and the current president of the Los Angeles Ethics Commission — said that, if proven true, the accusations against Garcia threaten to seriously damage the nationwide movement that has been credited with bringing the issue of sexual harassment into the open.

“Hypocrisy knows no bounds and no partisanship, it crosses all party affiliations,’’ she said. “To the extent that these are substantiated claims, there’s a picture of Cristina Garcia as a hypocrite in the dictionary.”

The stories underscore how “sexual harassment is not OK, period — regardless of whether it’s by a man, or a woman. And frankly, this threatens to set the movement back — because when you have one of the faces of this movement facing these allegations, that’s a real problem.” [...]

Feminists represent a minority of women. It is not reasonable for them to dictate the way that all men and women will act.