@Cycloptichorn,
Come on Cyclo. This is a bullying post... and I am not buying. When I say I accept responsibility, it doesn't mean that I am going to accept the ideological narrative of your group. I am saying that no one takes the responsibility for anything I posted except for me... I could have responded differently, or walked away, at any point. I chose not to.
Here is what I take responsibility for:
- One part of this thread upset me. I posted my feelings that this thread upset me. I explained why; I feel this is a politicization, and I feel that this minimizes the experiences of people who don't fit the narrative. If I sounded angry, then maybe it was because I feel angry. Expressing my emotions on a public thread about a personal topic seems legitimate to me, so I expressed them.
- I got pulled into the same ideological battle with the same little group of posters that happens on every political thread. I didn't have to get pulled in. If I chose to leave rather than respond, the drama would not have happened.
- Every post I wrote here, every opinion I expressed, whether good bad is based on my opinions and my feelings about the topic. I didn't have to post any of them. I chose to, and the resulting conflict happened as a result. The same can be said about everyone else.
Here is what I don't take responsibility for:
- The grand vision of a one-sided feel good thread where liberal enlightened men support and defend women who share personal experience, and no one has or expresses any negative feelings or dissent. This is not realistic on a public open forum where anyone can respond based on their own feelings, experiences or opinions. There are closed groups for this.
- No one had to participate in the drama. If people had ignored me, or responded responsibly, the drama would not have happened.
- The personal attacks, the political statements, the vulgarity, the closing of ranks... these are all staples of a core group on Able2know. This thread is no different than any other thread... because no one here (including me) acted any differently.
There are three ways that your crowd could have responded to me on this thread. You could have ignored me, you could have engaged constructively (even if I was acting upset), or you could have escalated into vulgar personal attacks.
We all know what happened.