Did she cheat or not? You tell me.

OK here goes. My wife and I were split after 10 years off being together.We were apart for 7 and have been back together for over a year. I thought we were never better. She said she would tell me anything I wanted to know about the 2 men she was with for a year each during our split. My dumb ass asked I'm 43 shes 54 and she was with a 26 year old and a 33 year old. Look I was no saint truth I was way worse but she asked me back and I came running. You can say I was wrong to snoop in her phone I was board and never thought to find anything. But I kinda did now you tell me if I'm making to much out of it please .She had to get a new phone about 5 months ago hers fried but it was same # for 5 years. I look through messages and find alot of nothing and crap from work but one # with no name or contact info so first off she never saved him a profile, or deleted the string. He contacted her 3 months ago with a how you doing? she did not respond 2 months ago he sent a similar text. She did not respond. Last month he text ok guess you don't want to talk I was worried. Now she said at this point she rememberd who he was and responed as such.
her...hey sorry how you bin?
him..OK you?
her...I broke my wrist in a bad fall 6 pins and screws in in alot of pain
him...Im sorry I can come over and keep you company.
her...she lied she was staying with me but told him"Im at home with my Dad and daughter.
him..I meant when you are alone.
her...Im never alone.
him...Maybe for the best I would wreck you."so ok they did sleep together"
her...yup.
her...Im out of commission "she realy did mess up her wrist"she said thats how she meant that.
him... well I do real want to get together soon.
her... sounds like a plan.
Now when confronted she said He was a guy she met at a party went out to dinner after a week of texting and end in a hotel for a one night stand.This was not like her so i could see her keeping it from me she said it was it didnt even matter to her. I told her she was wrong for answering him not telling him she was with anyone "like me"she said he didnt need to know anything about her. I made her tex him she with in a relationship and its not right for them to talk.to me I can hear the lack of interest she wasnt into him and if i was him i would get the hint. Het text her back saying goodluck no hard feelings.hope your happy. I told her this was emotional cheating is ? What mad me most mad is she did think she did anything wrong she said she was tring to blow him off nicely. My ? to her was if this was from over 2 years ago why is he getting intouch with you now"she said this was a year before we got back together"and why did she lead him on by saying it sounds like a plan?She said she just wanted to get rid of him. you tell me plz