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Married and Extremely Bi-Curious!

 
 
Reply Mon 31 Jul, 2017 01:18 am
I'm 41 and married...for at least the past year I've had a stronger than usual desire to be with another woman. I admire other woman sexually and if I'm honest with myself, I've always been attracted to women, it's just always been secretly. I love and watch only lesbian porn whenever Im alone and masturbate. I recently (in the last 6 months) informed my husband of my desires and attraction to women, which he thinks is hot. He has recently become interested in certain aspects of male/male sex also. The need/want to experiment with a woman is only getting worse and I'm not sure what this means or what I should do about it. I understand as women get older they tend to become more curious...that is definitely me!!! Any thoughts or suggestions?
 
blackminusredd
 
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Reply Mon 31 Jul, 2017 10:43 am
@1dreamer ,
Do you think it's just sexual attraction or you think you will get attached emotionally? Do you love your husband? I think trying it out with a woman would change a lot of things between the two of you, so it would be good to talk about it first?
1dreamer
 
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Reply Mon 31 Jul, 2017 12:44 pm
@blackminusredd,
I think it's sexual attraction at this point for sure. I love my husband, we've been married 20yrs. I've always been attracted to women if I'm honest with myself, but it's always been secretly. My husband is the first and only person I've admitted it to, and he thankfully doesn't have a problem with it. I think it could potentially change things if I ever did experiment and he knows that too. But I dont know what to do about these urges that have gotten stronger the older I've gotten. I firmly believe if my husband wasn't in the picture, I would definitely see where my attraction lead me, not caring what anyone thought now. He knows that I regret not experimenting when I was younger, but that's not something that was remotely "ok" growing up.
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Kell bi
 
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Reply Mon 31 Jul, 2017 09:37 pm
If you and your husband are bisexual curious and agree to try to interact with bisexuality, you can try to find a relationship with a bisexual/bi-curious female, sexual orientation can not be suppressed, it is better to accept it.
FrankLee
 
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Reply Wed 2 Aug, 2017 04:02 am
@1dreamer ,
There are a handful of "swinging" sites out there that you may want to check out. It may sound strange at first but it's a way to find other couples that are in your same situation and explore your curiosities with other committed couples.
1dreamer
 
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Reply Wed 2 Aug, 2017 06:22 am
@FrankLee,
That has been brought up in conversation, something we may ultimately look into. Thank you.
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1dreamer
 
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Reply Wed 2 Aug, 2017 06:27 am
@Kell bi,
I ageee with and I'm understanding that more now. I'm trying to understand why my "want" is so strong now. It's always been there, I know that, but always able to suppress it or just not think about it. But now, I think about it all the time! Thank you
duit2
 
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Reply Sun 17 Sep, 2017 05:05 am
@1dreamer ,
I think you might want to have an encounter with another couple who have bi-sexual tendencies or want to. I am male and found out late in life that I am bi. I enjoy sex with males a lot but am still attracted to women. With a bi couple you could both explore your bi side.
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xgendercamboy
 
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Reply Wed 15 Nov, 2017 04:41 pm
@1dreamer ,
If the both of you are having these emotions then why not go with the flow and test the waters and see where the tide takes you. If your love is strong enough then your relationship will thrive no matter what.
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Mark Steven
 
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Reply Sun 3 Dec, 2017 04:04 pm
Every person and relationship is different, so only you can answer the question of whether or not to approach the subject with your husband.

IMHO: You only live once, and it's better to regret something you have done, than do regret something you haven't done.
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tr2408m
 
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Reply Mon 25 Jun, 2018 01:38 am
@1dreamer ,
It's the best thing having sex with a woman babes, I would love to do it again xxxxxxx
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back1968
 
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Reply Mon 8 Oct, 2018 06:37 am
My guess is you've been married a while. As we get older our drive drops and the usual doesn't work. Naturally, you mind starts to wander. Watching porn speeds that up I think.

As long as you communicate. Stress you will keep it woman to woman, and I think your husband should be find with you trying it.

Many feel like you do, after 20 years of marriage.
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Theamos
 
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Reply Thu 11 Oct, 2018 10:39 am
Go for it. Nothing wrong with it. I’m bi and have been with many married women some of there husbands know and even join other don’t and it is our secret
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simrangoyal
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 03:06 am
@1dreamer ,
Go for it. Nothing wrong with it
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