Gently, i'm sorry for the position you find yourself in, i can only tell you what i would do and perhaps help you understand that ''there is no bad in good and no good in bad''. People all to often claim a gray area to things, especially when they are too weak to do what's right, the choice you make is either Black or White, all that follows thereafter you could conceive of as shades of gray if you wish, but don't allow yourself to be fooled by those with bad intentions. Ask yourself how you would like to be manipulated and lied to by the very person you thought you could trust more then anyone else, this is essentially the position your boyfriend is in, the only different's being that everyone except him knows he is being betrayed, this is incredibly cruel and humiliating. If you will only put yourself in his shoes it would dawn on you that what you are doing is as evil as it get's, inherently selfish, and no good will come of it. You may think you are getting away with it, but this couldn't be further from the truth, if you want a successful and lasting relationship with your boyfriend, then you must commit yourself to him as he is committed to you. A lasting relationship is build with trust, honesty, open and honest communication, also allowing yourself to be vulnerable with him. I cannot stress enough how important honesty is, if you want your relationship to stand a chance it is absolutely essential that you tell him the truth, and i don't mean bits and pieces, i mean the full truth, by doing this you are allowing him to make his own decision, this is a Major step in the right direction, it also shows him that despite what you have done against him you still respect him, that is huge for a man, and no doubt for woman as well. I think you already know that telling him the truth is the right thing to do, but you were and are still hoping that perhaps lying and cheating can somehow be a good thing, that will never happen. Last of all, the two older men you have been deceiving you boyfriend with ( they are accomplices ) are in fact a pack of Fools, not wise by any standard and by their actions it is obvious they most likely will Never become wise. Sorry but they are fools, not wise men, a wise men would never deprive the great potential of a youth for self gain, this is what they are doing, taking advantage of you and your boyfriend, of your youth, your innocence, your boyfriends innocence, using their knowledge for pure self gain, i can tell you that any real wise men would say the same. If your father knew i guess he would probably strike them down for being the bastards they are. Please get away from them, do not allow yourself to be used any longer and tell your boyfriend everything, EVERYTHING, don't get defensive, allow him to be upset, angry, allow him to make his own decision, and don't run from him, learn from this experience, don't deny yourself this knowledge. Right now everything looks dark, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, just don't give up, there will be many people telling you what you want to hear, just remember that for every one person speaking from the heart, there will be 100 speaking from their ego. Please be strong and stand upright, don't be afraid of what might be, as long as you do what's right you will always shine bright, and so will your future.
I so hope that my words resonate with you, and that you and your boyfriend will create a ever lasting bond together. Truth and honest Countrygirl08