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Sat 3 Jun, 2017 12:44 pm
My boyfriend has these two female friends that he likes so much and I don't get why. This morning he told me we spend too much time together, and that he has to make more room for them. But the thing is, before he had no problem with us spending the entire day together. I put my friends on hold for him, he even told me not to worry about one of our closest friends feeling like we were neglecting him, but now that it comes to these two, it's a problem.
He also said he needs his space and that we just spend way too much time together. He was alright with that until last night when he hung out with them. Even before that he seemed to enjoy talking to them more than anyone else. All they do is sit around and talk about **** every now and then. They can be pretty annoying. They're not my crowd of people, so I don't join them. When we're hanging out, he'll bring up how he feels bad that he isn't with them, so I'll tell him that he can invite them to tag along to be nice. Instead of saying it's our time, he agrees to it. I just feel like he's putting them before me. He'd rather make sure they've talked to him over me talking to him. I mean, he tells them stuff he doesn't even tell me. If I want to find out about his day, I have to find out through his friends.
I was really upset about the whole thing, and he didn't even come and check up on me and he still cares about them over me.... I don't get it. I'm his girlfriend, not them. His friend seems to give more of a **** over how I feel then he does. He's supposed to be the one comforting me, but instead he's talking to them...
Am I being ridiculous?
@Maybebroken,
If you're not getting what you want out of a relationship, I think you know what to do.
@jespah,
Is it being unfair to ask him not to spend time with his friends? I just don't get why there was no problem with us spending time together before and now all of a sudden, there's an issue.
@Maybebroken,
Whether it's specifically fair is not the issue (although if you feel you're being needy, you might want to address that) - it's more that you're not getting what you want out of this relationship.
Spoiler alert: life is short, and wasting time on relationships that don't fulfill you is not a good way to spend that time.