Why would you want to save this marriage?
Seriously. I realize what happens, you get used to it and you pretend it's okay and maybe you even listen to him and you convince yourself that it's your fault and things would be awesome if only you weren't so -
It. Does. Not. Matter.
People like this will lie and lie and try to convince you that you are the architect of your own destruction and that they are not to blame.
Spoiler alert: people like that always, always are.
You do not deserve this treatment for burning dinner, being loud, swearing, smiling, dyeing your hair, sleeping late, having a job, calling your mother or any of a thousand other lies that abusers tell their victims every single day of the week.