I think I'm getting to understand more, that you don't really look at people and show any interest - I don't mean sexual interest, but any interest at all, probably because you are all worried.
Some of us can remember being like that, so I don't mean to mock, but please work up some interest in others.
I've written about this before on a2k so I won't belabor it, but I was extremely shy as a teen, until I got a job at a hospital at sixteen after school and opened my eyes. It helped to have a talkative first boss. She taught me about horse racing and asked me to pick a winner at the track. I did, as I liked horses too.
Her talkativeness broke me in to everyday chat.
You are specific that you don't want sex but want to date.
Do you understand that these are related?