Grand Duke - porn has changed a lot over the last 20 - 30 years. The industry has recognized the large female market, and is targeting it.
Have you read any of the Nancy Friday collections of womens fantasies? I've noticed a lot of her work makes men uneasy. I've got some theories about why that's the case, but I'll save 'em for now.
Women have been writing and creating porn for hundreds of years. Thousands if you count some of the extremely explicit Indian carvings done by women.
An interesting book on the subject.
http://www.nyupress.org/product_info.php?products_id=1347
Over the course of these same twenty-five years, there has been a proliferation of sexually explicit materials geared toward women, made available in increasingly mainstream venues. In asking "what is the relationship of women to pornography?" Juffer maintains that we need to stop obsessing over pornography's transgressive aspects, and start focusing on the place of porn and erotica in women's everyday lives. Where, she asks, do women routinely find it, for how much, and how is it circulated and consumed within the home? How is this circulation and consumption shaped by the different marketing categories that attempt to distinguish erotica from porn, such as women's literary erotica and sexual self-help videos for couples?
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In her pursuit to understand what women like and how they get it, Juffer delves into adult cable channels, erotic literary anthologies, sex therapy guides, cyberporn, masturbation, and sex toys, showing the varying degrees to which these materials have been domesticated for home consumption.
Representing the next generation of scholarship on pornography, At Home with Pornography will transform our understanding of women's everyday sexuality.
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