I posted last week about not liking my soon to be sister-in-law (STBSIL) (link here http://able2know.org/topic/317243-1
Anyway things have come to ahead today - 10 days before we're due to get married. His parents are not speaking to us, they're ignoring my daughter (ffs she's 10months old she doesn't know whats going on) and will only speak to us if I apologise and take everything back. I refuse, I feel strongly that STBSIL should not be driving my daughter around, and I will not be bullied into doing or saying something that I don't believe or am uncomfortable with.
So Fiance has cancelled the wedding, he's said we're over because I refuse to put my issues aside to keep the peace. He feels torn between us (me and daughter) and them, he doesn't want issues at the wedding so thats it it's over.
I have tried to explain myself to my in-laws, I've tried to make things right and have been civil with them when I've seen them. But I will not apologise for how I feel. They're the ones being petty, they're the ones who refuse to accept my feelings on the matter because I dared say something bad about they're perfect daughter.
I'm sat here in tears, he'd choose them over me after the way they treated him. He won't even try and talk them round, as apparently this is my mess to sort out.
If he moves out, he'll have nowhere to go, his parents have made it clear they won't ever take him back for more than one night, his grandparents have his aunt and her 3 children living with them so have no room and the rest of his family live all over the country, no close enough to his work.
I was told I needed to assert myself more but this is why I don't because when I do everything falls apart.