I agree smog. The chase is a game and lots of us aren't into games. I like a woman who knows what she wants and holds out til she gets it.
Yep! She doesn't have to put out or be too aggressive either, but she needs to be sure about what she wants without messing around with my mind at all. That's what I like.
Really? You never heard this song about mating behavior, then I suppose? "Young women, they run like hares 'round a mountain, young women, they run like hares 'round a mountain, if I were a young man I'd soon go a huntin' with my right fol-a-diddle-dero right fol-a-diddle dey. Young women, they swim like ducks in the water, young women, they swim, like ducks in the water. If I were a young man, I'd soon go swim after with my right fol-a-diddle-dero right fol-a-diddle-dey. Young women they sit like birds in the bushes, young women they sit like birds in the bushes. If I were a young man, I'd go beat them bushes, with my right fol-a-diddle-dero my right fol-a-diddle-dey." You're missing out, I tell you, if you seriously mean no gameplaying.
Game playing is close to folly, to me. Perfectly silly.
No wait! Game playing is great if both sides know the rules and agree in advance, but to pretend you're not interested in order to increase desire?
I met some old friends a few weeks ago and we sat around talking. We had all gone to college together. The guy said that he had married his wife, my friend from a bacteriology class, because he would never be bored. And that he hasn't been.
She doesn't fail to bore him by virtue of keeping up the games... she fails to bore him because she continues to grow as an interesting person and so does he.
panzade wrote:No wait! Game playing is great if both sides know the rules and agree in advance, but to pretend you're not interested in order to increase desire?
I'm not fond of the game where one pretends disinterest, but I'm usually game for other games.
Woohoo! That's what I'm talkin about.
Oh, those games.. no argument.
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my other problem is that most of my friends have boyfriends so i really dont have many people to go out with...i'm 26 so at this point it seems hard to meet other female friends...all the friends that i have mostly hang out with their boyfriends on weekends ):
This was mentioned earlier but I'll reiterate it, you can also try the personals. Don't say they don't work, the personals are how I met my husband. He was 23 and I was 26 at the time.
diana, you've been played like a guitar. from the sounds of it, you'll be played an awful lot to come. get a sense of self, sweetie. it's time for you to NOT spend time with others...get to know yourself and add a little discipline in your date life. while reading your text, i'm embarrassed for you.
Pam, I dunno about that. It's difficult to re-orient oneself after a break up, especially of a long-term relationship, especially one that was serious enough to end up (at least temporarily) in an engagement, especially one that went from 22 to 26. (I'm not actually sure of this part -- going by the "four years since I'd hooked up with another person" in Diane's first post.)
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wow pam you are so sweet (: I wish i had 10 friends just like you
diana, i'm not trying to hurt you, honestly. i do give good advice usually...i think. i'm surprised at how easily you give it up...and gave it up...and gave it up, to such an obvious slob...at such a mature age. i meant it when i advised that you spend time getting to know yourself. it sure helped me when i was single. just be yourself and let the guys come your way. don't get caught in the mind set that you'll only get a guy if you give it up. it's simply not true, and it's also humiliating and hurtful when you realize you've been played. i just read your 1st post again to see if i had possibly misunderstood your story. nope, i was correct... i cringed when i read about your bj skills...and your wonderment that he would compliment you during it. i'm no feminist, and i'm still embarrassed for you. the solution to your challenge... it's obvious to me. what IS your technique anyway? i'm kidding, of course.
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PamO I guess I am not so sure on what you are so 'embaressed' for me for. I could understand if i was like, gee the past 5 weekends I have gotten drunk and gone home with 5 different guys and had intercourse with them without a condom. How old are you exactly? To be honest, I think i'm pretty mild compared to some of the stories and things i read about people in their 20's and 30's. Do you watch sex in the City? It aint so far from the truth. I really dont appreciate being judged by you
Diana, You do not understand my angle...and that is ok. No one is here to judge you. If you want to have some fun on my self esteem, (as I suppose you think I am on yours...) why not go look up my first thread here. I'm the one who had a google searching, porn subscribing husband a month or two ago. Go ahead, have fun posting on my thread. And since you asked, I just turned 34 and I absolutely love Sex in the City...I have the entire collection on dvd.
