What have I gotten myself into?

Well I just got a message from him this am. Asking about meeting Monday. I really don't want to be in this anymore heavies it's just wrong. However a part of me is attached to it. What to do I say. Should I meet and tell him in person.? Help me out please.

Yes I'm listening. But do I meet to end it.?

Personally I think it best to end it without meeting with him. Normally I feel a face to face break up is best, to be considerate of the other person, but this is an affair not a dedicated relationship. Also ask yourself - are you ready to face him? How hard would it be?

And considering the fact that this is an affair to me doesn't warrant a face to face - it might be best if you are up front and say it is best that we just drop this now and then when we are both free to focus on a real relationship we could meet up and discuss.

I think you know the answer

I don't think you should meet with him again.

I'd suggest sending a text saying you are sorting things out and will not be meeting him again until both of you are available. I'd also let him know that you'll be blocking his number until your marital situation is sorted out.

It's going to have to be an email back saying sorry not into this. It's not right. We don't text. That can be traced on phone bill. I'd rather just say goodbye face to face. Better closure for me. Tough decision.

As I wrote above we don't text. Has to be email. I'm not going to pursue him when free because he's been clearly feeding me a line of bullshit. Cake eater. Not in my best interest to be involved with a guy like this again.

Block his email.

I understand wanting the face to face, but do you think that is best under the circumstances? I think it will be hard enough for you - try the email.

I think it might be easier to say right to his face this. Clearly you are in this for fun with no full intentions of leaving you're marriage. I'm disappointed that I've been played and I think you'd better rethink your actions here or you're gonna get yourself into huge trouble. I know it's a lecture.. But he probably needs to hear it. I don't even think his marriage is bad. I get that gut feeling and it's strong. So all in all I feel bad for his wife and feel bad I even touched him. Terrible of me. Sadly not feeling as bad doing this to h after all the stuff I've endured with abuse. You have no idea. It's been hell.

Imo someone who has suffered abuse if it is physical emotional or whatever wouldn't dare have an affair. what you are doing is wrong in every sense. if this person likes you at all he will wait. because atm you are being the horrible person in your relationship.

Huh? Horrible Ina marriage with an abuser.. Please explain that to me? I'm not the cruel one. I've told the affair partner all the what's going on. He's fully aware.

You are enjoying the drama.

It's not love, it's not the sex - it's the drama you crave.
So who's next?

Drama? I'm the most unlikely person in the world to enjoy drama, I don't take part in it. This started by talking and before I knew it, I let my guard down and then I was in it. Not love for sure and there has not been a lot of sex.. If anything, I have enjoyed the friendship.

I would have to say I was the most critical at the beginning but this poor girl seems to be trying to get her life together so give her a little slack and a bit support

I appreciate you saying that thank you. It's exactly what I'm trying to do.

I'm sinking in my thoughts tonight. As much as I know move gotten myself into even more of a mess by having an affair, I miss this guy so much. When the heck does that go away.?.

In three to four months, if all goes well.

Hope so.

Or as soon as you find another guy to love... :-)