Different strokes for different folks (does this translate?, this idiom means that different people like different things).
In the first case, my friend (who happens to be a woman from Spain) doesn't want to be asked permission. The idea of being asked permission is what makes her laugh. She wants the man to just kiss her (without saying anything).
In the second case ... hopefully the man would realize that the date hadn't gone well. But even so, he can try to kiss her and take the consequences.
My Spanish friend has a different attitude than you do.