When we first met, I used to be OK with all these things. With her going out with other guys, I never asked where she was or what she was doing. I knew she chatted and flirted with guys on facebook, and let it go as inconsequential. I was never jealous or even felt threatened by the fact that other guys were pursuing her.
In fact, I told her this was all normal for young people and that I was ok with that.
However, all this being OK with things was before I found out she had actually cheated.
After the first time 2 years ago, I was sad and told her I wasn't happy, but forgave her and gave our relationship another chance, because of the love I have for her.
Besides these things in the thread, she a wonderful girl, so sweet and gorgeous, and when things are good between us, its something magical.
A year passed, and when the second cheating passed, I was devastated, I broke up with her and left the country never to return.
She bought a plane ticket a week later and came found me where I was and begged me to give her another chance. She swore she would never ever cheat on me again.
I decided to give us a chance again, but now find it very difficult to trust. Our conversations continually turn into disagreements about things she does which I'm not OK with.
Really, what I would really appreciate from you guys is an impartial observation on if the "problem" here is something in me? or is the way she is behaving unreasonable?
I don't shy away from self-transformational steps and challenges, and if I need to change something, there is no league which would limit me.
If I could be shown how this is an issue in me specifically, I am willing to find a way to accept it and change in order to save this relationship.
If it's really her behaviour which is the issue here, it would clarify things for me greatly.
Thanks a lot for your time and response, much appreciated.