my 2 1/2yr old wont come with me..

Have you asked your ex-wife to bring your daughter somewhere to meet you?

She wont do anything out side my hours.. she wont allow me see her outside the hours given by the courts..

Another week .. and notin has changed.. still have great fun when we are with each other but still wont come.. its like de ja vu...

I'm not asking if she'll do anything outside of her hours.

Will your ex-wife accompany your daughter to a meeting with you in a park/restaurant/wherever?

She works during the week.. so its to late in the e evening to do anthing like that.. and at the weekend she has noone to mind her other kids.... was there yesterday and today and my little one is starting to get very clingy to me now and is all about her daddy maybe its because she is starting to really miss me when im gone now.. cause sbe starting to say.. I see u tomoro daddy we have fun.. and it breaks my heart knowing I wont see her till next week again..

Have you been doing any reading on developmental stages yet?

You really need to understand what's going on with your daughter.

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Have you asked your ex-wife if she would bring your daughter to a park to meet you? is there a reason her other children couldn't come along when she brings your daughter to the park?

please do more reading about children's psychological developmental stages

Would you know the names of any good books worth a read please.

Just a little update... still the same..nothing has changed since I spoke last...

Hi.. im thinkin the next time I go to visit my daughter.. when she wants me to come into the house.. do u think I should say no to her im not goin in.. and then tell her im goin and get back into my car and drive off again.. would this be a good or bad thing to do???

O. M. G.

Wat do you mean by OMG.. if u have notin helpful to say dont bother commenting.. everything you say is negative.. so to me you havent a clue..

Don't lie, or make promises you can't keep, it only builds up resentment. That's the sort of thing kids remember into adulthood.

I just thought a change of tactics might work.. cause maybe shes getting to used to me goin into the house when I go down to see her and thats y she is not commin with me..

By all means change tactics, but don't lie. If you're going to skip a week tell her, (she doesn't need to know the reason,) but don't say you'll come and not turn up.

I meant call to see her but dont go into the house when she wants me to.. just to see how she reacts to me not goin in.. im not on about lieing to her..

I'm sorry, don't mean to insult you, but this strikes me as completely confusingly dumb. She is still two, isn't she? To me, that is almost a kind of willful torturing a toddler to somehow train her. People here have told you that her behavior is usual for two year olds. You are making this all about yourself. It is, certainly, about yourself and what you are going through, but the key person here is your child.

Did you ever follow any of ehBeth's suggestions about reading books on child development or getting in with a single parent group locally? I don't know the best books myself or I'd list them for you. Do you have a local library? You do have a computer - you could look up books on Amazon or other book sites and read the reviews.

That is the second problem, the first one is the cruelty. Almost certainly mom is the main problem here, but dont take it out on the child.

When im in her house.. we constantly play and I try to read her and do numbers.. im not with her mother anymore.. so I would just like quality time with my baby so we can go off and do things together just like before.. im not makin this about me... its just not the same down there as if we were just daddy daughter time..