I can't speak to the smell/odors as I've a very diminished sense of smell.
When my grandmother died when I was nine, we lived in another state, so the last time I saw her was two years before. She hadn't been healthy but I remember liking her a lot, sick as she was in those years. I remember her asking me to thread a needle for her, so she was still sewing two years before. It might have been good for me, a growth experience, to see her stressed out in the hospital when she was dying, but I don't really know. I know I have pleasant memories of her; I still have her old purple felt hat with a veil.
I worked in several hospitals later, and liked them. In part they helped me grow up, meeting so many different people than those in my tiny family, people with lots of different opinions. Not as many different as in a2k threads, but very different than I had known before. As to whether or not to take the children to see granny, for me there are varying issues.
In no special order,
- are you doing this all for granny? is granny stressed by it?
I agree with someone's point about not crowding and stressing.
- are you italian? Much as I talk about Italy, I'm not, and would probably would not want a whole caboodle of family visiting me while I was going through all the stuff Punkey mentioned. It might even frighten granny, as in, "am I dying?" On the other hand, sometimes matters turn, and if they did, that particular family might strongly regret not being there.
Depending on the family, granny might be glad to get away.
- depends on the children too, as others have said. Aside from sensitivity, can they be quiet? There are other patients to think of too.
- depends on the adults as well. Are the uncles (etc.) boisterously loud?