aimeemarie123's relationships suck... tell me what you think

Okay, cav, I'll jump in here.

I don't think you're being too materialistic at all. If you have a job and are self-supporting, you deserve to have a guy who does, too. Otherwise, it's too lopsided a relationship. As Noddy would say, "Hold your dominion." Don't lower your standards.

Second, dating is a lot like shopping at thrift stores. There are a lot of other people's rejects out there. You've got to sort through a lot of crap to find something good, but there are wonderful things there. It just takes time to find them.

Looked at what? If there are good chick pictures somewhere, and you're not filling me in Cav...gosh darn it, I just won't be thrilled.

Sheesh, Slappy, you're slippin'. You forgot the part where she's supposed to be filmed that evening!

<shaking head>

I'm with Reg re the personals (gee, I wonder why? LOL). They really do force you to direct your interests and focus on the kind of person you really want, if you use them properly. It's easy to specify looks and age range, but when it comes to specifying the KIND of person you want (their values, their interests, their hopes and dreams), a lot of people don't do that.

Of course you're not just looking for a guy with his own apartment; you're looking for a guy with some ambitions and a sense of future direction. They're out there. Really.

Psst! Slappy! She's got a personal ad on Match.com. I forgot her screen name. I'm sure she'd be willing to give it to a smooth talker like yourself though.

ya know how to use the search function, doncha? (this is directed at kicky and slappy - my, how i love their names )


aimeemarie - where are you finding these guys? Maybe you need to look in different places? I definitely wouldn't be looking for a guy anywhere near a Legion (at least not the Legion as we know it here in Canada - no one who's under 70 is sober or employable in there)

If you know what kind of person you're looking for, you might be able to figure out where he is. Hmmmmmm, what am I saying - the guy before Setanta - we found each other in a grocery store - definitely not a place I'd have expected to find any kind of interesting guy.

o.k I am here after a long and trying weekend. American legion guy is 29 and just the bartender there. haven't talked to him and I think I have BIGGER issues as of right now!
I went to club rain in springfield with a group of friends... GR was there.
I had no intensions of drinking a lot, but I saw him and ordered a double shot and It just went down hill from there. I tried to ignore him, I really did but then he came over and was like don't act like you don't know I am here. so I said hi how are you... and went off to dance somewhere else. many drinks later some really guy was dancing with me I was trying desperately to get away... here comes GR to the rescue. bad news... he was like how come you haven't called me? and i was like how come you haven't called me? I apologized for yelling at him and he kissed me....... aaaaahhhhhhhhh, the we made out on the dance floor while all my friends kept coming up and saying what are you doing? if I was not drinking I would not have let him. I am regretting it now because he asked me to call him. I want to be friends but I don't want to date him. he is a PLAYER I found out that he has slept with two people since we had our falling out. it has only been three weeks!

poo poo. I should have known he would be there... but he works all the time and NEVER had time to go out on the weekends with me when we were seeing each other, so I thought I was safe... oh well. I am dumb and it is my own damn fault... he has this like power over me like he is really hot and I just fall to pieces when he is around me. like how come a guy this hot is inerested in me? i know that is a really bad thing to say but I spent most of my life being fat and now I am cute but still have the fat girl mentality.



my screen name on match.com is blue_eyegirl123.

You know Slap I'm originally from Mass. and when I read posts like your current advice post, I have to wonder if we aren't step brothers. Was your dad a prick named Waldo?

Sheesh aimeemarie, you sound like my wife, who is beautiful but still has this complex. You must get over it. It gets to the point where that ominous question comes up "Do I look fat in this", and I look, and being honest, say yea or nay. However....if I say yes, it's like "You're lying, what do you know? Now I have to change." Can I say what bullshit? If I wasn't honest with my wife, what sort of man would I be? Strangely enough, when something doesn't look good on her, and I say so, she is very calm and says, "Yeah, you're right. I'll find something else to wear." Go figure. I suggest that all women learn to distinguish between a true compliment on their looks and a perceived insult. I'll be at The Learning Annex all month attempting to teach this to y'all.

Actually I believe his nickname was "dickhead."

Anyway, is there anything better than easily swayed drunk chicks???

well... it is hard for me I was teased all my life and now I have the body but i find it hard to be confident all the time... after a rejection it is twice as hard.

to answer the question, what first attracts me to a guy?
I would have to say eyes, I am a big fan of eyes. I like really intense eyes, it doesn't matter what color but as long as they are intense, i am usually butter.

as for you lslappy, i don't think that I will have any luck finding a nice guy if I act like that.

my friend jared told me that all the guys were talking about me on the way down to springfield the other night, he didn't tell me what they said but he did stick up for me... he said she is a really nice girl and she doesn't deserve any of that. you better be nice to her, I really like her, i would like to take her out she is the frist real girl I have met she isn't all fake like others.

I think GR was talking about our sexual experience... all one of them... and believe me if he wants to start talking tehn i can too, what will that solve? it will make GR realize he isn't all that. because he is inadequate in some ares... wink wink.

AimeeMarie, you are what every guy wants. I'm serious. A cute girl who thinks she's not. Once a guy figures that out about you, he's got the keys to your "kingdom".

I think the way to deal with this problem is to just start having sex with any guy who looks your way. After about twenty or thirty guys, you'll realize that you are hot, and then you can go from there. Oh, and why don't you start in New York City. I'll be at the Raccoon Lodge on 76th and York this saturday. See ya there!

Rejection = Move on, he/she's not worth it

You seem to be upside down on this issue. I am assuming that you intend to use Jared as a jealousy weapon against GR, who treats you like crap. Call me confused...is this the same guy? If they are different guys, why not Jared?

jared is someone i met at a party about 5 years ago. I had boyfriend when I met him and I think he is cute and nice... I just never thought of him that way until he told me he stood up for me that way...
GR--- I met him though brandon... jareds brother.

my life is just confusing.

I have a wierd situation also. my aunt wants to set me up with this guy he is a registered nurse. she is friends with his mother... my cousin says no don't go out with him... I feel dumb because he has seen pictures of me and i haven't seen a picture of him.

I am not shure what to do with this... it would be my first blind date.

This is hearsay information--not personal experience. I'm not a political animal.

One type of the few open-to-all indoor gatherings that attract more men than women are political committees to elect or re-elect someone for office.

Pick your party (and be sure you're registered to vote), then call the local campaign headquarters and volunteer.

Meanwhile, hold your dominion.

I would suggest asking if he's closer to Quasimodo or Brad Pitt, and if it's inbetween, how far does the needle swing?

I am very liberal, I don't think I wouldn't call myself anything though.

That's gotta be the guy I have eight other step or half brothers and sisters and they all called him that......see ya at the next family reunion.....and in answer to your question yes there is something better....two at a time........

guys.... please no more drunk chick jokes.... I get there sometimes but i am never easily swayed.

If you're gonna hang out and hammer it down...the jokes go with the territory. Thicken your skin sweetie, we're just joshing.