I know it's her body and she can do what she wants with it, but if she doesn't want to thats all she's gotta tell me, as opposed to telling me she is and doesn't end up doing it...
and I am not going to penetrate unless she says the words but I don't think that would be as bad as to be called rape, one of my good friends was raped so i definately defend rape victums, but me personally woulnd' consider it rape unless 1) she was drunk, 2) she said no or stop or something...not saying anything bad about rape and such and don't really want to get into a topic about rape, just i don't believe its that bad...but like i said the main topic here is just to see if anyone knows why she is stalling which i think i have found the answer...sort of anyhow hehe...thanks for all the replies
I don't think you're being picky, I wouldn't want to feast in a jungle either. It's nice that you want to please her, thats great, but it doesn't sound like she cares one way or another if you go down on her or not. Perhaps suggest "Nair" (hair removal cream) or something along that line, it's pain free and no razors. Good luck!!
Wiyaka has explained better than I did; not so much the sharp objects, more the aftereffects. And also -- ugh. I'm gonna have to leave it to Wiyaka. My hubby already raised an eyebrow at me when he saw a comment I made about nipplage. :-)
thabear, I know you want to focus on the shaving thing, but you're saying some things about rape that could get you in very big trouble. Be careful.
Meanwhile, I think it's very likely that it's not more complicated than what you've already laid out -- your girlfriend is interested in doing what you'd like, but nervous about it, so is putting it off.
Okay, found this thread interesting because I have recently shaved for my dh. He had asked me to a long time ago, but I was nervous...about sharp things in a sensitive area and also about the after effects. The growing back in stage is not pleasant and I knew that I would have to deal with that. So, I put it off because of those issues...not because I didn't want to do it for him. I'm also not the "girly" kind of girl so thinking that I would have to shave every day was a little bit of a deterrent as well.
So last year as a surprise I shaved for him. I had to take the time to find out how to do it correctly and got some good advice on the best ways to do it. Unfortunately the only places that really had any good information were porno sites but at least there are sites out there that tell you the best ways to do it. Now it's not that big of a deal and I don't have a problem maintaining (sp?) it.
Maybe if you do offer to have fun with it and while in the bath tub or something you can shave her or help her shave it could be a fun thing. Although dh was very happily surprised last year when he found what was waiting for him!
No Nair down there!
Shave, ok. Wax, ouch, but ok. But no Nair. Bad chemicals.
Otherwise, I agree with 'stand up for pessimism'.
Wiyaka's right about the re-growth issues.
dh - doohickey? door hinge?
although doohickey works too!
imdtckdkr wrote:dh=dear husband
I was thinking Designated Hitter...
I was also thinking Designated Hitter, high 5, McG.
thabear - it's rape if she doesn't consent to intercourse. Her being sober means nothing. Her using special words (other than no) means nothing. Don't even get into that.
As for the shaving, one question: are you so beautifully groomed in the same area? 'Cause if you aren't, that may be why she's being cautious. And, what Wiyaka said - there may be issues of ingrown hairs, etc.
As for her telling you she will, and then not doing so, she probably doesn't see it as the priority that you seem to. Hey, if you want to make it happen, make it happen - lead her to the bathroom and talk about doing it, take out the razor, etc. and if she says it's okay, go to town. If not, then there's your answer - that she doesn't want to do this and is just saying so. But if she does say it's okay, it may just be she's nervous about getting started. If you gently (and I mean gently) show her there's nothing to be afraid of, she may go along with it.
I think just s trim would probably do. No need to shave. Go buy one of those electric hair clippers, put a number 2 attachment on it and go to town. You need to keep the garden weeded...
You're not this stupid are you?? If she wanted to trim or shave her pubic region, she would have done it right?? It would have probably been like that before ya'll met if that was what she preferred. It wasn't. It's obviously not something she wants to do. Take a hint.
C'mon, I don't think he's going to rape her...this shouldn't be a rape definition contest.
Buy her a gift certificate to get a brazillian wax.
Grow a Hitler mustache in protest, and tell her that you will shave when she does.
I dunno, I also don't think that he's going to rape her. I had an ex-girlfriend who liked being shaved by me down there, as part of foreplay. You just have to be careful, and apparently, for some women, it is very erotic. Just a thought.
I shave and no one ever asked me to I have for years. I shave every thing but a landing strip, it makes me feel sexy. tell he it migh tmake her feel sexy... that might work.
Do what me and squinney do...every so often make it an art project.....make a topiary down there....or a handlebar mustache......or a lightning bolt.....you're only limited by your imagination.....
i have never tried shapes before maybe I will when I actually have someone to go in that region... as a surprise.
Yeah that's cool...as long as you're careful--it can be taxing on a relationship.
I asked my ex-girlfriend if she could shave a penis shape down there. That apparently was the last straw. She said I needed time to "figure things out."
I don't think I am talented enough to shave a shape like that, lightning bolt is ok... but I am no pubic hair artist.
