I put on weight. Should I meet with her?

It's important at any age...particularly for women. But--there's is something of a turn-off for people to fret over a few pounds. After all...you've have to bring more to the table than appearance right?

of course. Well everybody cares of even a few pounds but nobody really talks about it in daily situations, right? I have a theory that there are different stages of building relationship and fail in any stage can be fatal. For instance, when you are meeting a woman in a restaurant or something first you look how she looks like. If she if pretty/your type (that takes like 0.5 sec to decide) you can move to another stage and explore her personality, intelligence.. then again, if she fits you you will interested in her social relations, maybe her career, etc.

This will vary a lot according to culture/age/circumstances, but pretty much everybody tells you that look is one of the first thing one looks at and very often most common factor in early stage preselection.

rough estimation: in my age/social status I would say look/other factors ratio is something like 40/60 or maybe 30/70. As you can see, still very important and as a matter of fact, easy to work with (it's certainly easier to loose 12 pounds of fat and gain 12 pounds of muscle (with a little juice) than becoming CEO of middle-sized company or transforming your personality into intellectual/bad boy/etc...)

I hope you got my point

don't take me as some kind of gym nut. As a matter of fact I prefer practical sports, such as kickbox.

Having nice shape is important as it is good way how to tell word "I am responsible and disciplined your man" and also "good at humpy-humpy" With combination of educated mind and preferably good job it's quite a magic pill for fulfilling intimate life.

the very idea of my question was that if she looks for humpy-humpy pal I might not be good choice for her as she has outstanding opportunities with any Ivan, Sergej, Fanda, Jano, whotever. And from my side - my confidence is low and my women skill is naturally poor... I am affraid.. therefore risk of refuse is too high and would hurt me. I like her and so does she me. Keeping things as they are now and waiting for better opportunity will be a good way for me. Venture capitalist would say reasonable investment strategy.

But you turned down her offer once. She might not want to put herself in the position of being turned down again. Her loss, I'm sure, but that's often how it works.

I neither agreed nor denied. She just mentioned invitation and since I am going to that city I am considering to drop by.

it is very very hard to consult intimate and social stuff over the internet as it is very difficult to express things properly. Everybody sees different story behind each sentence.

Maybe in Brazil it's not just good enough to have a good job...after all, it's warm and your body must be exposed....more competition. It's not by accident some of the hottest/successful underwear/lingerie models are from Brazil...men and women. None of them named Hans...just saying....don't get confused about sex-appeal and finances....

It is very easy to do, Pan.
You just ask 'are you up for ****'? and there you go.
Depends how she answering it you know if she is funny,
prude, dull and a lot else. Trust me, done it.

You're hard to come by aren't you? I wonder how hard your boyfriend's wife screws him...and can you still smell her on his breath? After all you're willing to share...

hahaha, my apology. I was just kidding. O took the analogy from small CEE towns where there are few jobs so people are obsessed with personal reputation instead of career or educations. Maybe you know what I talk about.

do you actually advise me to tell research&development director from leading university tech institute to "invite for a ****"?

I guess this is a reason why internet should be banned for teens. They take this stuff seriously .

I actually do understand . But--just saying not everyone agrees as to what the "acceptable" currency is. For some it is a great sense of humor....I find that indispensable....

yes, I agree. Many told me that my so called humour is not funny at all, rather annoying and boring. Maybe that is the reason why I am single?

I don't know about, but this has turned into one of the funniest of the active threads.

I don't know...some of my favorite people are funny without even realizing it. My husband is my favorite. Tender, cute, funny...even when not trying...and he has my heart. ;-)

hm...congratulation to a nice marriage!

Thanks babe...it's work though. and lots of laughs!

omg I am dude! O.O

I'm a female....

ou yes. by "babe" you meant some Yank-slang, right?
My circuits are a bit longer here...

Yes....it's just a manner of speech.