@CalamityJane,
CalamityJane wrote:
The real question then is: would she be satisfied with a different claim of love, as you put it Chai?
He had numerous affairs, none took off, so he went back home to his wife, because there he gets a warm meal, his laundry is done and he's taken care of. If she's pleased with a caregiver, she wouldn't have come here to ask advice.
She has a right to be loved by her spouse, regardless of the claim he's making.
In total agreement CJ, and only she can answer that.
That's why I said...."The question is, is someone able to accept that things change, and not fear and pine for times that are gone?"
As far as her right to be loved by her spouse, he's saying he doesn't love her in the same way, not that he doesn't love her. If, as you say, she has a right to be loved by her spouse, I don't know if that includes being loved in exactly the way it was "before"
She may decide it's not for her, or she may decide otherwise.
At this point, she doesn't love him the way she used to either.
Many things change the way people love each other, not just affairs.
She can, perhaps stubbornly, keep trying to change the way things are right now, to the way they were in the past; adjust and appreciate the way things are now (that goes for the other person too); or not accept it and either stay or leave.
These are this couples choices to work out, regardless how anyone else in the world think about it.
