Lash - don't just listen - all angles will be appreciated! I agree with so many who've posted here that pride needs to be balanced - it can be a good thing or a bad thing or some combo of the two.
MellowG - I am not taking it in a bad way. I wish you the best too. I wish everybody the best, even at my own expense.
Pride has fueled several explosions of my own. Only when I feel that someone is unjustly disregarding me in something that I feel I know a lot about. I only truely saw red when I lived in Georgia. I got that pat on the head waaaay too often down there. I almost got in a barroom brawl with a guy over a dart game.
littlek--
You are one tough fairy! (Or ballerina?)
If you care to emote--
How did pride nearly propel you into a barroom brawl? And, I'm in Georgia. Just tell me who it was....
Don't chew me out but have you guys talked about healthy self-esteem?
I'm a tough fairy - I like that, mind if I keep it?
(although seeing my avatar as a ballarina is wildly funny to me)
I was on a dart team, we were playing a final tournament match at a bar I worked at. The dart boards abutted the pool tables so the nearest one was to be unused while we played darts. Some guys started to rack balls on the near table, I asked them to wait until we were done. They continued to rack, I told them this time. The guy said "what the f are you gonna do about it?" and I lost it. I was crawling over the table, finger in his face. His buddy moved to stand behind him, hands up. Bad scene. I crawled back down and got re-enforcements. Thing is, the bulk of the staff and all of the owners were men. They kinda kept an eye on the situation, but didn't help me out.
husker wrote:Don't chew me out but have you guys talked about healthy self-esteem?
we've touch on healthy vs unhealthy self-esteem.
littlek wrote:that is it Beth. I DO want guys to like me for my personality and smarts alone. Very weird.
must be alot of dumb guy's in boston.
aw thanks Pueo - but you can't just blame them. I'm at fault too.
pride and self-esteem HAVE to be entwined, no?
How about pride as a defensive manuever for low self-esteem?
Do you think you can have low self- esteem and be full of pride?
littlek wrote:aw thanks Pueo - but you can't just blame them. I'm at fault too.
you are a gem even more so now. how many people (male or female) can admit faults?
btw, although i write these things and mean it, this doesn't intefere with any ongoing thread rivalry ok?
Only the lowliest, common redneck would face off with a woman.
Do you think it was pride, or just anger? You were rudely provoked. I realize he 'called you out', and maybe pride may have propelled some people, but anger would've been the contributing factor in that instance for many people in that situation.
I guess I would have just been really pissed that they were so thoughtless while a game was going on. Was it your pride in how well you were doing at darts that set that fire under you to say something to them?
That is an incredible piece of writing at the end of that link, Husker.
build self-esteem
thought you might like the link
<<squintyeyes>> what thread rivalry??? And, thanks, I think....
pueo wrote:littlek wrote:aw thanks Pueo - but you can't just blame them. I'm at fault too.
you are a gem even more so now. how many people (male or female) can admit faults?
btw, although i write these things and mean it, this doesn't intefere with any ongoing thread rivalry ok?
It was pride-based anger at being disregarded.
Lash Goth wrote:Only the lowliest, common redneck would face off with a woman.
Do you think it was pride, or just anger? You were rudely provoked. I realize he 'called you out', and maybe pride may have propelled some people, but anger would've been the contributing factor in that instance for many people in that situation.
I guess I would have just been really pissed that they were so thoughtless while a game was going on. Was it your pride in how well you were doing at darts that set that fire under you to say something to them?
I'm going to have to wait until I'm more rested and more sober before I delve into that link....
folks, i gottagotabed..... this has been most enlightening! I think you. I'm looking forward to more discourse on the subject manana.
