@hawkeye10,
Quote:Bullshit, the law says directly that each act needs a new affirmative consent, not each encounter
Duh, that's what I've been saying, that's why there has to be
ongoing communication about what's wanted. Just because she's enthused about hugging, kissing, fondling, does not mean she's consenting to intercourse. Just because you want her to give you oral sex, doesn't mean you've consented to her sticking that candle up your ass.
People communicate all the time during sex, sometimes verbally, and they also send feedback to partners that clearly indicates whether they are enjoying themselves and an active willing participant or not, and they do this without having to give it much thought. Most people, including college students, want to engage in sex that really is consensual and wanted, by both parties, and that takes the partner's preferences into account, and that excludes what isn't wanted, or what one just isn't in the mood for--and better communication facilitates all of that. You're obviously not one of those people, if the whole notion of affirmative consent troubles you.
Hawkeye knocks on Firefly's door.
Firefly opens it
Hawkeye: Hi
Firefly: Hi, I didn't know you were coming over. Why didn't you call?
Hawkeye: Can I come in?
Firefly: Only for a little while. I have to leave in about 20 minutes.
Firefly then lets Hawkeye in.
Firefly: Let's go in the kitchen. Would you like some coffee or tea?
Hawkeye: Can we have it out on the patio?
Firefly: No, I'd rather have it in the kitchen, I don't want to lose track of the time.
Hawkeye: Could you make me that brewed Hawaiian coffee I like so much, and a sandwich to go with it?
Firefly: Didn't you listen to what I said before? I've got to leave in a little while. Had you bothered to call before coming over, I would have told you not to come.
Hawkeye: Would you rather I left?
Firefly: Yes. I really would like that, that's what's best for me right now.
Hawkeye pouts but leaves. Firefly puts big fat candles on her shopping list.