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Guy touched me, should I tell boyfriend?

 
 
LayRong
 
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Reply Mon 3 Jul, 2017 08:00 am
@SeverienBehets,
Boyfriend does not need to know. You did nothing wrong. (Other than putting yourself into a situation where you were alone with this guy. I find it hard to believe you "lost track" of the group.

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Fil Albuquerque
 
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Reply Mon 3 Jul, 2017 09:10 am
@CoastalRat,
CoastalRat wrote:

Boyfriend does not need to know. You did nothing wrong. (Other than putting yourself into a situation where you were alone with this guy. I find it hard to believe you "lost track" of the group. I think you knew exactly what you were doing but then changed your mind. But that is irrelevant.) He made a move on you and you rejected it. So why tell your boyfriend?
Tbis! No need to hurt your boyfriend to relieve you from your partial guilt....besides you correct it soon enough. Just forget the whole thing and move on with your life. Next time think twice...
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Lilly352
 
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Reply Wed 5 Jul, 2017 06:42 am
@jespah,
I know for a fact he doesn't do this to other women as he never has time to see anyone else. As if he is not in school then he is with me. He is 17 where as i have only just turned 16. I don't know what to do anymore.
Lilly352
 
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Reply Wed 5 Jul, 2017 06:46 am
@celebritydiscodave,
Yes i do feel the need to tell someone but as i said i am scared to. He is 17 where as i have just turned 16. I want to tell someone but as i said i am very scared to share it with anyone else. I posted it for help as no one online knows me therefore if i get judged i don't mind. I just need some serious help. I am a care kid so cant tell my carer as if i did i would not be allowed out. I lost my friends as i left and didn't tell anyone i was in care. I need serious help and need to know what to do please help.
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jespah
 
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Reply Wed 5 Jul, 2017 06:53 am
@Lilly352,
So? Then he'll bother someone tomorrow.

Seriously, this is how this stuff goes on forever. I'm not blaming you, but at the same time, when this happens to people and they keep quiet about it, it only sets things up for the perpetrator (yes, I am using criminal justice words and it's for a good reason as this is battery) to do it again and to gain more confidence that he can do whatever the hell he wants to.

I know you are scared and I respect that - so tell an adult and let them handle it. This does not have to be your responsibility to fix.
Lilly352
 
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Reply Wed 5 Jul, 2017 07:07 am
@jespah,
But what if nothing happens to him? What if the police or someone else can't do anything to him? Then again what if they do? He has a Beautiful Daughter who he dearly loves and i don't want a little girl to grow up without a dad i know what that is like.
jespah
 
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Reply Wed 5 Jul, 2017 07:50 am
@Lilly352,
I saw your other topic and I don't want to add any pressure to you.

I still think telling someone is going to alleviate the pressure. As for his child, I'm sorry - and you are nice for being sympathetic - but the person jeopardizing their living situation is not you. It's him. This is on him alone.
Lilly352
 
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Reply Wed 5 Jul, 2017 07:56 am
@jespah,
Thank you! It is fine i asked for peoples advice and help and your telling me what you think i should do. If you mean by my other post the one that i want to die then it is fine. Everything has just built up and specially around what has happened to me. I do want to tell someone but then i don't. What would happen if i got someone else to tell a responsible adult?
jespah
 
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Reply Wed 5 Jul, 2017 02:03 pm
@Lilly352,
Of course you can get someone else to mention it. Or send an anonymous note. It does not have to be a big confrontation. You just have to get it out there that this is happening. Please do not keep it to yourself.

You can do this.
Lilly352
 
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Reply Thu 6 Jul, 2017 06:30 am
@jespah,
What if he makes things worse? He has gone round saying stuff in school and this guy keeps on saying stuff about me
celebritydiscodave
 
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Reply Thu 6 Jul, 2017 12:19 pm
@Lilly352,
Ultimately it is not always possible to stop people saying stuff, and people are apt to believe what they are told. Whenever it comes back to you tell them that you are not surprised that he should make such accusations seeing as he is a psychopath. Also, that he says things like that about everybody. I tend to agreeing with you, that reporting the incident may only cause you more upset. He`ll deny it and you`ll likely have to relive the whole ordeal., and for what? Write an account and have it delivered to the head, but instead of identifying yourself simply explain why it is you`d sooner not be identified. Trust me, this will work best for you.
Lilly352
 
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Reply Fri 7 Jul, 2017 07:27 am
@celebritydiscodave,
Okay thank you i have already wrote a letter to my head of year explaining my issues and also saying that i want to change study partners. I have not heard back of them yet though
celebritydiscodave
 
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Reply Fri 7 Jul, 2017 11:40 am
@Lilly352,
I just hope that he is capable to share your reality with you.
Lilly352
 
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Reply Mon 10 Jul, 2017 01:25 pm
@celebritydiscodave,
Thanks.
cruzlorenzo
 
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Reply Tue 11 Jul, 2017 03:31 am
@SeverienBehets,
Do not make such a problem from that
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celebritydiscodave
 
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Reply Tue 11 Jul, 2017 01:07 pm
@Lilly352,
It is possible that they`ll neglect to respond, it`s called being useless, and simply hope that the issue goes away. For some reason entirely outside of my perception there are still those in authority that consider such goings on when within peer group to be somehow less serious, perhaps not even sufficiently serious to be acted upon. Society is full of prejudice and misconception, with far too much enthusiasm for collective social perception, rather than the actual reality for an individual victim.
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cruzlorenzo
 
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Reply Fri 10 Nov, 2017 06:50 am
@SeverienBehets,
Ohhh God, are you serious?
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maplee88
 
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Reply Tue 23 Jun, 2020 09:34 pm
It's nothing. You didn't do anything wrong.



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Wilso
 
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Reply Tue 23 Jun, 2020 11:23 pm
@maplee88,
Conversation from 6 years ago. I suspect the situation has been dealt with in one way or another.
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anonn101
 
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Reply Sat 18 Jul, 2020 01:52 am
@SeverienBehets,
Do you normally hangout with guys you don't really know so well?

I do think he has a right to know. I don't know how he'd react to this for sure but if he really cares for you, he'd be worried about your condition. If going to parties because some guys invited you to go with them like that is something that's okay to do in your relationship then I'd say you didn't really do anything wrong so he'll most likely only be hurt because he wasn't there to protect you and wasn't able to comfort you sooner.
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