Yes, do that, bromeliad. You can order from Godiva online. Be sure to charge it to his account.
Godiva cures all in my opinion.
If you're going to order chocolate, get the best:
Dagoba
In general, who is more likely to be happy?
People generally want what they don't have!! So if you're married, you'll think about the single life, and vise versa.
I agree with you stand up for pessimism. :wink:
Hi, I'm new... I think my husband wants to start a physical affair with his online gf
This is a woman he worked with recently. When he quit the job, they began to e-mail A LOT! I checked the e-mails. She is sending love notes... saying I love you, I want you, etc. He is sending responses...saying, I miss touching you when we brush passing each other, etc. I confronted him. He said nothing had happened, yet.
I can't compete with the "other woman". We've been married 15 years, have 2 kids and lots of history. She's "new blood". I asked him to stop communicating with her and work on our relationship. He siad he had to think about it.
Yikes, STxRose. From what you say, your husband is being immature, selfish, deluded, and all kinds of bad things. However, if you want him to work on the relationship and he says "no", I don't know what you can do.
That sucks. Hope he comes around.
Meanwhile, maybe counselling just for you, if he won't go? This has to be incredibly difficult and can probably give you some tools for how to handle this.
thanks sozobe.
We've had a really long talk and I pointed out that if he chooses to put his personal temporary desires over the family's long term health, he will loose the opportunity to be with his "little girls" for most of the rest of thier growing up lives. That got his attention.
I have hope for us... I just don't trust him anymore.
We've got a long way to go.
Thanks for responding... I haven't wanted to discuss this with any of our friends... I don't want to create permanent problems for our family.
Thanks doglover... what kinds of dogs do you have?
I know that time will be our best friend right now. I also know that I have to start putting him a little higher on my priority list so that this will not happen again. I know that we still love each other, we just have to get turned back around and heading in the same direction. I have also tried to hide any discussions and disagreements from our girls, that is very hard.
So, now I'm just waiting for him to say the words. So far, for the last three days, there has not been any electronic communications either way. I'm taking that as a good sign. Hopefully we've caught this in time and can nip it in the bud.
the name... I live in South Texas, love roses, and my oldest daughter's middle name is Rose. TXRose was taken, so I "went south".
Sure call me Rose. It has lots of special meaning to me. The reason my daughter' smiddle name is Rose is for a wonderful woman who has been like another grandmother to me. She is over 90 years old and her given name is Elliot. When she met her husband, he told her he would only ever call her Rose because it fit her. She is Mrs. Rose to so many people, most do not know it is not a legal name.
How long have you been married? This year is #15 for us. Yes, marriage is the hardest thing I have ever done, but I believe the most rewarding. One of my friends told me when I was planning the wedding that "Marriage would be the most wonderful mistake I would ever make." She was right!
I agree that infatuation is a big factor, he even said that was what was going on... he was "infatuated" with this other woman. She isn't a bad person either, she is married, has a grown daughter who is getting married, and her mother-in-law who is showing the beginning of alzheimers lives with them. I encouraged him to be friends with her at the beginning because she seemed to really need a friend.
I have told him that I have always felt that "the other person" is not the "bad" guy. She is not the bad guy in our relationship, he is. If she continues to be "infatuated" with my husband, she is the "bad guy" in her marriage. Still... I can't stand the sound of her name. I don't like him to say it, I don't like to see it written, because she is the object of his betrayal.
I remind him that when we were going to all our pre-wedding parties, my favorite quote was "I'll be a widow before I'll be a divorcee." LOL
Regarding the statistic that married men live longer, other research -mostly me asking other married men- shows that it only seems longer.
Joe
Joe Nation wrote:Regarding the statistic that married men live longer, other research -mostly me asking other married men- shows that it only seems longer.
Joe
I wonder what married guys do for fun. Do married guys get together and play poker these days? Is there any time for yourself? Or is it always you, the wife, and/or another couple or couples when you go out? Do you go out? Is there ever any time when you can just relax by yourself? I guess what I'm getting at is . . . are you guys whipped?
You don't think married WOMEN wanna get away?
Actually - this is a totally non-qualified observation, so don't hang me, ok?
I just get the impression that the US is a way more MARRIED place. I know lots of single folk - some who never wanted to marry (like me) - you know, serial monogamists (or almost!) and such - and lots of once were married folk - it is no big deal. I get the sense it IS a bigger deal over there? Could just be the particular "village" I live in, I know, here - you know, folk with similar values?
Also, here - women - when partnered - unless they are as dim as dead lightbulbs - tend to want to get out with THEIR friends - do stuff on their own - unless they are in highly dependent (dead lightbulbs) or controlling/abusive relationships.
Guys do their stuff, usually, too. Although, I observe from long experience, that they tend to have less rich networks, and rely more on the women to arrange their social life - I have had lots of guys I was just sharing a house with schmooze their way into MY networks!! I know some guys with very rich social networks, too, don't get me wrong.
I guess I am just saying that here I observe very few couples sort of welded together - IS it different over there?
