sozobe wrote:people who have that kind of close friendship and don't need to get married to find that kind of intimacy
Thaz probly part of why single women are (apparently) happier than single men: they're more likely to have that kind of friendships going on. My experience, if I look around me, anyways. In cafes, too, you see lot of women friends happily together and men either alone or at most bonding in larger groups or in, say, non-emotional ways (talking soccer or sumpin ... those who play chess are especially weird. Huh.)
Funny tho, considering the stereotype is so the opposite: carefree young men taking adventage and women desperate to find Mr. Right!
Through my parents' post-divorce single search adventures I got a bit of a poignant perspective on how that gets when people get over 35 or 40 - so many single women, going on, I dunno, group holidays, courses, any kind of fun stuff all the while hoping to meet that OK guy, and lamenting about where the hell all their single male counterparts went - well, lotta time those are just at home, alone, watching TV or the computer screen, or they're out fishing by themselves or something. Just gave up on it all.