Oh Set, here's 2 examples, back to back of how I think parents mold children, the first in a positive way, the 2nd in an on the surface positive, but I'm still pondering the long term results.
As I mentioned in another thread, I had recently taken on a part time time. Due to unrelated reason, I decided by the end of the 3rd day it wasn't a fit for me, and bowed out.
It was at a local music school, teaching piano, violin, violla, drum, bass, voice, guitar, etc. The students were anywhere from 6 to 14 or 15, and some adults.
What stood out most to me was how motivated the kids were, some taking multiple instruments, or a couple of classes a week. This was a direct reflection on the parents.
Anyway, at one point it was kind of busy, and I noticed a little girl, around 7, standing in the doorway. I caught her eye, and she nodded her head, patiently waiting. In a moment I turned to her and asked "Did you need something dear?", and she whispered something. I went closer and bent down and she repeated "May I read on of the books out here?' I looked around the corner and saw she was indicating a rack with books and magazines, obviously meant to be used. I smiled and said "Of course, take any book you like"
She knew not to take something without asking.
There was a 2nd little girl, maybe 8 who came in early on her own, and wanted to just quietly hang out in the office. She was great. She asked ME what my favorite subject had been in school, asked me if I like to read, and told me about the book she was currently enjoying. It was a Friday and someone asked her what she was doing this weekend. She reeled off 2 or 3 things for Saturday (including being in a parade), and I said "wow, you have a busy day tomorrow"
She simply said "I don't have time to lie around"
Now, you know that came from her hearing her parents say that to her. She seemed very happy, but I hope in the future she makes time for lying around.