As a woman, I need to understand this because I do know most men, if not all, watch porn. I need the men to jump into this question and help me out please! How much porn is abnormal? I find that my husband received messages all day long with naked girls and porn. He watches porn twice or three times a day at home while I'm not there and he masturbates EVERYDAY! We have sex every day as well and we've been married for 19 years now. I just find that it's excessive porn. Please help me understand this!
I think it interferes with marriage because I feel too much fantasy crosses the lines into reality and that in turns becomes an affair(s). I don't know why he needs outside stimulation, I'm willing and able and he knows this. That's what I don't understand! He does have anxiety issues and he did use coke early in our marriage. He's 41.
ok that part makes total sense.
Re: bobsal u1553115 (Post 5636020)
I really don't understand your reply/comment.
This is an open forum, created to speak freely about our personal issues and concerns. What does this have to do with a 14 yr old boy????
yes I get that too and we play dirty but maybe you're right about that because I know sometimes they want to be "dirty" with a virtual stranger & not their wife and maybe it's just easier too. I just feel that sometimes no matter what I do, I'm not enough of what he fantasizes about. No matter how much I do of the stuff he likes or don't do. I never reject him even if I'm exhausted, sick or simply not in the mood. When I ask him, he reassures me that I am but I think he's just telling me what he thinks I want to hear.