Let's talk about love

I think you've got it a little backwards, kicky. Women (generalizing) want love to be a part of sex. Men want sex to be a part of love. I suspect women are conditioned to be more accepting of love without sex, men to be more accepting of sex without love.

Hmm...I've always thought that women have a whole (oops, no pun intended) lot more invested in sex than men. What if there is an 'accident'? Who will be responsible? I think that partially explains why love is more important to women than men, generally speaking.

Good point cav. You see examples of what you say on shows like Maury Povitch all the time. These girls get pregnant, have the child, and are devistated when the guy walks out on them. The girls/young women are devistated, they thought the guy really cared about them...even 'loved' them, when in reality, the young women were nothing more than a screw to the guy. Women often make the mistake of making more out of the sex act then guys do.

As for the 'accident' aspect of pregnancy, oft times young women...even older women will think they can trap a guy into commitment or even marriage if they become pregnant. NOT!

Re: Let's talk about love


I believe there is only one kind of love for each person that comes into our lives. Each being different and unique. No one love will ever be the same for each person. Now as for the feeling of butterflies that you get in your stomach yea that feeling is possible to get again.

Sex and Love .... I see it like this:

When you have two people.....their bodies locked in passion. Skin dancing against skin...BEAUTIFUL as beautiful can be. Fingers exploring or interlocked. A total loss of time and surroundings. And you add to all that equation~ "the crazy little thing called love" .......................
Well......it's eroticism at it's best.

At least for me, it is

Just read Brooke's post.
WOW! <mopping fevered brow>

Is there really such a thing as love?

Most 'love' is an inherently greedy phenomena.

I suppose if i were to define 'love' it would be caring more about the 'other' than for one's self.

And that translates nicely into the sexual 'involvement' for, to me, sex is giving, not taking; but, having said that, sex with a self indulgent, and narcissistic individual is not likely to yield satisfaction - for either! This often creates a problem for noticeably 'knockout' women (or men) since they grow used to being spoiled and waited on by their suitors, and this will never work when it comes time to 'produce'!

Only if each truly wants to bestow real pleasure on the 'other' can the 'act of love' be an outstanding 'event'.

This thread is getting pretty steamy now . . .

it's a 'fine' ballance Kicky;

take one letter out of 'steamy', and you have 'seamy';

love is a tightrope!

You have to love be willing to love first kc.