@Gman2010,
Quote:.another obvious reply
Of course it is obvious. That is why it is the advice everyone is giving you. It is also the correct advice. You just don't want to hear it because you are looking for us to help you justify what you want to do.
Quote:why are you on this site if you are married 32 years and never cheated.
This is a relationship forum, not a cheaters forum. But even if it were, if I or anyone else wants to be here to give advice, it is perfectly fine. Again, the only reason you are getting so defensive is that you do not want to hear what we are all saying.
Quote:you can't offer any real insight
Of course I can. And I did.
Quote: EVERYONE goes into marriage thinking no more sex with anyone but the spouse, but reality happens to a MAJORITY of marriages and you can't tell me different.
I will agree that a majority of marriages end in divorce, but I'm not so sure about the cheating aspect being a part of a majority of marriages. But lets say I agree with you. Just because it happens in a majority of marriages is not a reason to justify you cheating on your spouse. Again, you are looking for any reason to help you justify what you want to do. Everyone else does it is not a reason.
Quote: What about how sometimes it re-energizes a marriage.
I've never known a marriage where one spouse cheats and then the couple claims that it re-energized their marriage. If you think that will be the case, why don't you ask your wife if she would mind if you had an affair in order to re-energize your marriage and see her response? If she is cool with it, then go for it. There, for the second time today I've suggested a way for you to get your piece of ass on the side.
Quote: Can we truly give everything to that same person all the time for so many years?
Of course we can. People do it all the time. Just another attempt by you to justify cheating.
Quote:.are we all supposed to be YOU?
Absolutely not. Very few people are as perfect as I am. But just because you cannot be expected to be like me is not a reason to walk away from your wedding vows. If you want someone else then divorce your wife and then get all the sex you want from whomever you want.
Look, I don't care a lick about what you decide to do. I've given you advice based on my moral compass. Others have done the same. And surprise, it is the same advice. You can go screw anyone you want. We don't care. You asked for advice and you've been given it.