@Gman2010,
Quote:I would only proceed if all clean, and fully discretion is agreed and no chance of partners finding out.
Partners always find out. Body language, a change in the spring in the step, no desire to even try for sex with your other half, a new shirt, a new dress, different make-up, not coming home at the usual hour, smiling more, higher phone bills. I could go on but you get the picture. You would have to be one of the most smartest person in the World to pull that off don't you think? The plotting, researching, thinking, constantly to ensure "no chance of partners finding out" became a reality.
It's a fair call that people are pointing out regardless how they are pointing it out, that you are "not thinking" read the above.. Can you pull that off? Because if you can't, you do lose your child, you will lose your wife, income, all for some intimate passion, not love, just passion.
Do you have to beg your wife for sex? No. But, she's probably had enough of feeling as if that is all she is, in the bedroom, just a piece of meat for sex.. If you find it hard to comprehend why she doesn't want it, look closer because it's all there in black and white. Take responsibilities when was the last time you kissed her for no reason, not for sex, just no reason. Told her she looked good, cooked instead of her, took her out for dinner, bought her a dress and told her to put it on you are going out and not wanting anything in return? When was the last time you two laughed.
Look, if you seriously look back at the beginning of your relationship you'd remember the passion. If you looked at the current situation of your relationship you'd see it's mundane. Boring. It takes two not one to make a relationship.
It is more than selfish to be heck bent on acting on a fantasy because you want to blame your wife. AND, when she finds out and she will, you will blame her and tell her it's her fault you did it.. That to me is gutless .