@Gman2010,
Ok, it now seems as though you are done responding angrily to our thoughts and are ready to listen. So, while I know I am repeating some of what has already been written, I will do so here again.
Quote:Ok...so how do I fix my wife?
You cannot fix something that is not broken. She does not need fixing. The relationship, which includes but is not limited to sex, is what needs fixing.
Quote:it's that it is turning out to be a parent and child dominated relationship and less and less a husband/wife relationship.
How so? Really, I'm curious. Nothing you have written to this point would lead us to think this is happening. So I cannot comment without additional info, if you wish to share. (I may be misunderstanding what you are saying here.)
Quote: I don't dislike her but I don't think I can live the rest of my life in a sexless marriage
You don't dislike her, but do you LOVE her? Do you care about her? I love my wife. I love her enough that if she were incapable of having a sexual relationship with me, I would still be totally faithful. Absolutely no doubt in my mind. THAT, my friend, is love. That said, there is no reason for you to live the rest of your life in a sexless marriage if there is no physical reason she has stopped having sex with you. So talk to her about it. Tell her what you have been telling us. That you want to have a physical relationship more often than what you currently are having. Ask her what YOU can do to help her to want to have sex more often.
I will not pretend to know what is going on with your wife. Nobody here really knows. We are only getting your side of the situation, and I have never known any situation where there are not two sides to the story. So, talk to your wife. Suggest some couples counseling. If she loves you and if you love her (not simply "don't dislike" her) then the two of you should be willing to try counseling. MAYBE, (notice I said maybe, cause I do not know) she may feel you are only interested in sex. Maybe she doesn't feel you love her as you once did. And for women, that feeling of love has a lot to do with sexual desire. If either of you don't want to try counseling, then why don't you try romancing her? Surprise her.
Here is an idea to get you started. Without telling her, make arrangements for a parent or relative to keep the kid. Then secretly pack a bag for the two of you and when she gets home, tell her to get in the car and take her out of town for the weekend. A mountain cabin for just the two of you may work wonders. Spend time getting to know each other all over again. Cuddle. Help her to fall in love with you all over again.
Ok, now that I have written a book, I will shut up. But the bottom line is simply this. IF you still want to make your marriage work, you step up to the plate and be the driving force behind fixing the relationship. Talking to her, counseling, romancing, whatever it takes. You begin. Then, if things don't get better, you can decide if you want to stay in a marriage that is lacking in sexual intimacy.
Good luck. And I really mean that. (I don't normally talk much about my personal relationship with my wife, but I will make an exception here. We had a very similar issue going on early in our marriage. There was a big disconnect between my sex drive and hers. Lots of frustration on my part and for the longest time I just didn't talk about it with her, I simply stewed over it. When I finally sat down with her and we really talked openly about it, I found out that the sex we had was just not all that great for her. So, I made it my personal goal in life to satisfy her needs in bed. Long story short, our sex life became much better once we began communicating in bed. I'm not saying this is what is going on with you two, but just saying that sometimes we don't realize how self focused we can be when it comes to sex.)