@The Pentacle Queen,
Very interesting Pentacle Queen. You ask for experiences from men about being pressured on what it means to be a men. Two of us, actual men with real experiences, show up to respond. And, you discount what we have to say.
I think my point is a valid one, and an experience that is shared by many of us (including my sons). Society today has mixed messages on what it means to be a man. There isn't really a clearly defined role for men.
I am willing to avoid the discussion on biology (I think this is what you don't want to argue about).
I do think it is important to understand that modern American culture is different than other cultures or even earlier American culture. Being a man in modern American culture is more difficult and less well defined then anywhere else. This is a very important point if you really want to understand the experiences of American men.
I also want to point out, ironically, this very clear example of one way modern society puts pressure on men to be a certain way...
If you largely to relate to gender roles presented to you by society, well good for you I suppose. I guess it makes life a lot easier.
I hope you see why this sentence made me chuckle.