Why has she ceased speaking to me?

You haven't been around very long, not on this site nor on this earth. I'm not frustrated, I simply don't care about your regard for adults. The simple fact is, you are too young to have acquired any of the skill sets most of the other members have acquired over the years. You have contradicted yourself many times since your initial question. Most of us have children your age or older. This will be a tough one for you to digest, but before we became our current ages, we were once your age. I doubt seriously that you're the first young boy to become so befuddled over a 2 week encounter with a young girl.

I encourage you to lose the attitude, especially when you ask for advice. You also need to stop a lot of things that I'm really not interested in coaching you thru. Some people always learn the hard way. You seem to think you have all the answers, that's why everyone is having so much fun at your expense.

You know people your age who have done/learned more. Terrific, use them as good examples and get advice from them. However, I don't know if it will prevent them viewing you as petty, arrogant and childish, particularly if they attempt to make you think logically. I am, however, very happy to see you have stopped using phrases i.e. "what not", "stuff like that". It's possible you can be helped. What the hell try to be positive. Couldn't hurt.

Actually they might. Educated savvy people will think you are being pretentious, and sadly very young people may copy your mistake and think it makes them sound educated. (Perpetuates the use of non words such as, irregardless and suposobly....not sure how to spell that since its not actually a word, rather mispronunciation)

" so that I could avoid doing such a thing in the future"
In the future ever, or in the future re her?
Maybe what someone else here said is on point, she has a new interest and that's that, but I'm guessing that she had been interested earlier.

Well, this is one of the riches of education - I mean that jocularly, since words are parsed in this thread.

With age does not always come wisdom. I've known her a lot longer than two weeks. We were friends for a few months before all of this happened. If you weren't upset you wouldn't be so condescending and rude in your posts. I didn't contradict myself at all. Everything has been explained rather clairvoyantly and I don't feel as though I need to explain myself any further.

I didn't have an attitude initially. The whole "having fun" dismissal is just your way of pretending you aren't obviously flustered by my posts. It must burn you to have someone less than half your age who doesn't just accept all of the nonsense you say. It's obvious that neither you, Coastal, or any of the others are "having fun" here.

I don't need to get advice from them. I was merely using them as an example to combat your attempt at using your life achievements to make me feel intimidated or impressed (both being unsuccessful). I wish I could say it were possible for you to be helped, but I think you're probably a little seasoned in years for that. It's most likely too late.

If you want I can go through all of your posts and correct the grammar. You seem to be focusing hard on attempting to make me look "uneducated" by claiming that my use of the word accolade was incorrect (though it obviously wasn't).

That right there is something that petty people do. Having good grammar and an expansive vocabulary are both positive things, but ass holes who attempt to point out flaws (especially when there are none) make the rest of us look bad.

I meant in the future in general, not with her.

Yeah, that's what I said in my initial post. It would have been nice to get a confirmation of it, but oh well. She's probably just met another guy and connected better with him, which is good for her.

what?

No one at this site is a clairvoyant, and since you don't know what went wrong with the girl it appears you aren't a clairvoyant either.

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Going back to your original post it seems that you didn't like the way she left the library and didn't contact her after that point. For some reason, she decided not to bother following up with you (or maybe she has a new phone that doesn't have your number).

There is nothing in what you wrote in the original post or later posts that suggests that she's gone on to another boy.

You've presented one side of a story. The possible number of reasons you are no longer in touch is as infinite as the number of combinations of humans.

If you are truly interested in knowing what went wrong between the two of you, you will have to ask her - and you will have to truly listen to what she says. Try not to interpret what she says - listen to the words she says to you - not what you think they might mean.

Listening is vital in the development and maintainence of good relationships (it applies here as well as in the real world).

This is the way of it, but not always, which is why living long is a combo of desire and comedy, and odd times, fulfillment. Not to sound arrogant, I've lived them all. Enjoy your ride.

I used it as an adjective, not a noun.

I talked to her earlier today. She didn't tell me anything at all, but rather denied that anything was wrong in general. I do want to know what happened but even when I asked her (which I initially didn't want to do) she wouldn't reveal anything.

Yes, I understand the grammar you were attempting to use.
It didn't work.

I'm glad you were able to speak to her.

Did you tell her why you didn't contact her after she left the library?

I described experience, not accolades. You need to check out metaphor, if you're up to it. I have to ask you a question, are you upset with people half your age thinking they are smarter than you? I'm guessing that could be 8, 9, or 10. Are you? Of course you're not. Here's a tip, neither are any of the A2k members. You are seeking advice, oh, I stand corrected, you think you can make a bunch of adults uncomfortable because you are clueless ha ha ha ha ha ha ha that's rich, it's so fascinazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. Deep snoring sounds.

I think it worked fine.


I told her I was confused and slightly annoyed by the way she left. I'm more curious as to why she didn't contact me (up until this point she had been texting me regularly).

"You need to check out metaphor, if your up to it."

"Of course your not."

People half my age know the difference between "your" and "you're".
Once you reach adulthood age begins to mean less and less in the intelligence spectrum. Some of the most intelligent people in human history have made their biggest breakthroughs at a young age. I understand why someone would be upset at a 10 year old thinking they're smarter than them. However, once you hit around age 18 the separation starts to mean less and less.


edit: I noticed you fixed the "your" to "you're" in your post. Good for you.

Please read this again when you have come down from the testasarone frenzy. Your second paragraph is so poorly written it is an embarrassment. You made rookie mistakes, we all do, but failing to realize your mistakes when they are pointed out, makes you just thick headed. One other thing, you don't focus hard, you can focus intently or just focus. Preferably just focus.

Please, arguers, this is not a grammar rondezvous.

When you hit 18, you are still very removed from adulthood. You can sign up for the military and you can vote. Sweet Jesus I wish the 18 year olds would educate themselves on the issues so they can use their vote wisely.

You haven't finished school, so relax, you have the rest of your life to figure out how you want to go. Thank God your not an English Major, my brother would be spinning in his grave.

I don't know what "testasarone" is. Perhaps you can explain to me. Men and women (to a lesser degree) have testosterone. Is that what you meant?

You can make fun of my grammar all you want. In the end at least I know the difference between your and you're.

"Thank God your not an English Major,"

When you're insulting my English at least have the common courtesy to the English language to use "you're" instead of "your". I'm sure your brother spins in his grave every time you make a post since you can't seem to figure out the difference between the two.

Well Jimmy young man, just to show you what a good sport I am, I wanted to congratulate you for growing up and actually contacting her and asking what you did that caused her to walk away as she did. Did you see how easy it was to contact her? You just simply ran into her. On a campus of 20,000 did you say? I guess it was easier than you thought. Think how much angst you could have avoided by simply listening to the first few responses here and just "run" into her earlier or dropped by her home

By the way, going over to the home of someone you've had a close relationship with for a couple of months is not creepy. At one time that was actually considered being social. I really think that is a lost art among young people today. If a young person suddenly cannot text someone, they become lost as to what to do.

If you hang around here on A2K much, you will come to realize that sometimes when someone asks a question with an obvious answer, you will receive a response that is direct and to the point. Sometimes even done in such a way as to wake the original poster up. That was exactly the reason I responded in the manner I did with my first post. You took offense which was your right to do so. Big deal. You needed, in my opinion, to see how ridiculous was the only question you asked in your OP. Then, you were caught in an obvious lie about not being able to contact her (which you could do by dropping by her home) and the fun was on. We don't take lightly to people who come here asking for advice/opinions and then refuse our advice by lying to us. It is quite frustrating to be lied to and yet to the very end you continued to claim that you had no way of contacting her and actually did not even want to make contact. Right up until the point that you admitted you did want to make contact and voila, you made contact.

Hopefully, in any future interactions on A2K, you will be a bit more honest with us and with yourself. Maybe you won't have so many of us giving you a difficult time.

Have a good day.

I didn't lie. I just didn't consider "running into her" as an option (since it was pretty obvious that I didn't just run into her even to her).