'The meaning of life is finding your gift/the purpose of life is giving it away'
One of my students introduced me to this quote, which I hadn't heard before. I think it's true, for me at least.
I was lucky enough to find what I loved to do early. I guess I just loved being a kid and learning and school so much that I decided I wanted to spend my days as an adult doing a job in that environment. It was the right choice for me. I could never imagine going to an office and sitting in a chair all day and I loved school, so it was a good fit.
My son, on the other hand, though very bright, didn't like school - he liked being outside, so he quit school as soon as he could. I was disappointed at first, but now realize he made the best decision for himself because his days are comprised of skiing every day. He found what he was good at (his gift) and what he loved to do and found a way to do it. I am relieved that it makes him happy. Nothing would make me more worried about him than for him to feel stuck, purposeless, frustrated and unhappy with his life.
That's what I would tell my children and the other that I teach - find what you love to do and a way to do it. If you don't, if you follow someone else's instructions or allow the expectations of others to rule your life and end up hating what you do each day, your life will seem very long, pointless, boring and disappointing. The unhappiest adults I know are the ones who have spent more than a third of their waking time getting to and doing something they have no passion for but have done to satisfy the requirements and expectations of society.
I want my children to be happy, first and foremost, and feel successful at creating the life they can enjoy. If my son had to sit in an office every day and was unhappy- I don't care if he was making a million dollars a year - I would feel sad for him.
Good luck in finding an activity or way to occupy your days that makes you feel happy and fulfilled.