My close cousin is acting like complete stranger and fake person towards me. It is pissing me off

If your advice was sincere (meaningful even) shouldn't you be practising what you preach?

Total Numpty..............duh.

Dylan, come back here and talk when you feel like it. You seem quite thoughtful and can see different sides to things.

I'm trying to imagine at 17 reading all of this what you think of us Adults

Hi-jackers will do that

Yes, Dylan talk to us, we are still here.......

Thanks, well yeah being thoughtful is both good and bad. You understand others well but also analyze other's actions a lot.

One last piece of advise. I have 1-2 other cousins in US too. I dont have any special emotions for them but we sometimes meet, i had helped them with few things. But they also didn't come to see me when i had some serious medical issues. And they are just 4-5 hours of drive.

They claim they are "too busy" but they go on for outing and parties, but don't have time to see a brother in need. I don't feel bad as i had never got close emotions for them (unlike my 13 yr old cousin) but i feel is there anyone you can trust in this world?

Should i discontinue relations from such hypocrite and mean people (they instantly call when need help) and during surgery and troubles, no call.

My view would be - while they are young, give them many chances, because many selfish teens grow into thoughtful adults - and while many don't - you won't know which way your cousins will go until later.

In the meantime, they may learn something through your good example.

Of course, if you chose not to pursue a relationship with your cousins, no one would blame you.

And of course, you could try something like, the next time they call for help - help them out, and then ask them "Hey bro, may I run something by you? (answer - sure, what). (You answer) You know I'll always be here for you when you need help, and I think of you like a brother. Something's been bothering me - last year I was in hospital, and you didn't come and visit me. May I ask you why you didn't visit?

The point of such a conversation is manyfold :
- you ask permission so that he can't feel that you ambushed him with your question
- you are telling him that you think of him as a brother
- you are telling him that his not visiting bothered you
- you are asking him to let you know his reasons for not visiting you
- and through inference, you are implying that you believe brothers visit brothers in hospital - that doing so means something to you, etc (of course he may be too young to understand that, but it may resonate with him at a later time if you go your separate ways)

...and no where in there is pre-judgement