@JLNobody,
I would venture to opine that opinions based on language can be perceived to be true to the observer. Without some basis or foundation, life would have no direction, and every decision would be chaotic.
We know through experience that we can make decisions to direct our activities - even get married and have children - if that's our choice.
Some even decide to go to college, and select a profession that they wish to practice for their work.
We do have some control.