Can a guy have sex with someone else but love someone else?

NO.

Look at early posts.

No. You do not get what I am saying.

I guess when I was young, my first boyfriend, he was Greek... I thought the same. I thought it was "respect" but the problem was, his "version" of he would also have no female friends, didn't quite ring true. Only time told me that and well, I ditched him. His version of me not having any, well I got alot of attention, wonder if guys like that aren't confident enough in themselves as far as the "love" stakes go that they feel they have to control and bullshit like this in order to ensure their "woman" what a horrible way to look at that too though, their "woman" don't stray.

I often wonder. No contact with any men for 5 years, from 19, how the heck will she ever understand how men think if her only friends she can have are geeks Sorry Mollie, and the only man she can talk to is this boyfriend ?

Maybe she will get it.

This is a scary post.

lol! seems to be he has low self esteem.

why?

Then what are you saying? im sorry?

Thanks

You are going on and on about somehow owning each other. Sorry, but you are both fools.

This has nothing at all to do with love.

Well, Mollie.

Let's look at it this way.

Or firstly, let me ask you a question or two

What do you percieve love to be, the ultimate relationship, one that you would marry into?

Um well im young so im not sure but i believe it means loving that person unconditionally being there for them, being faithful caring for them never wanting to hurt them and it hurts u when they hurt. Be respectful and not disrespectful to them never do anything out of spite or to get even stuff like that? & yes the one u would want to be with forever

Thanks

Okay.

I'm not against you, just trying to say what I think.

Okay thanks thought u were being mean.

Mollie, you are old enough, you are no longer a teenager, you are almost 20 right? So quit with the young bit.

Ok, that's true to a degree but try this, both loving each other un-conditionally, being there for each other, trusting each other, honoring each other, feeling each other's feelings, being able to communicate, having boundries, no one owns each other because each person owns themselves, having simular morals, standards, yet having individuality and own hobbies and lives, including whom they chose as their friends, never going to bed after having an arguement being mad, rather talking it out before hand, having simular goals and passions in life, always being honest.

What in there can you see that ticks your boxes in your current relationship and what doesn't you know, pro's and cons.

When i say im young i mean i haven't dated around much to actually define a relationship im saying that for a pass go ticket. & yes all that does make sense and i would check all those that u just said. But im asking you how do u get the vision of this out of your head? How do u start the healing process of it all? How do u even know u can get over something like this? All i know is im trying my hardest to not nit think avout it but i cant helo but ponder on it? & i wonder if he ever thunks about this?

You start to try not trying to own other people.

Never did to begin with

Mollie.........

You are avoiding everything, everyone is saying to you.

But only wanting an answer no one can answer you because until you view what we have said and understood it ? Only then will you get your answer.

Im not avoiding anything i havr read and understood everything everyone has said to me.....