Actually many still go to Pearl Harbor...the Arizona has been made into a memorial. Not just vets have gone there. Perhaps we should resink the Arizona or maybe turn it into scrap metal, because of course, oh hell that's in the past, must move on now, mustn't we.
"widow weeds"? Gee, would you like to tell Diane her length of allowed time to grieve over her Bob? As I indicated in that thread, (passing of Bob Welles/dyslexia) my mother made the statement many years ago, when people like you were complaining that Mrs.H. on the next block still hadn't gotten past the loss of her husband (he died suddenly by the way, at traffic intersection), my mother, said that there was no set time frame for grief.
You of course continually contradict yourself....maybe. You tell us that displays must be private, and that there is a proper length of time for grief, then say people can appear in public if they so choose and then hint (and only hint) that you might get choked up.
And for the record, I never said you weren't affected by that day or that you didn't know anyone killed that day. Stop with your antics. This is as absurd and Chai2-self-absorbed as your damned pool thread. (hey, I said I wouldn't add in there, didn't say I'd not mention it elsewhere). Any way, you can grieve whatever way you want, private or public, others should be afforded the same courtesy and that includes trying2learn. If T2L wants to talk aloud, to spirits then so be it. I talk to those who've gone before. I envision them and have conversations....perhaps they are aware, perhaps they are not. It's how I manage in times of struggle. Dave Van Ronk pulled me through a horrendous time.
Jean helped me in a heart-stress-test, I could hear her, telling me, "now you've done it kiddo." and felt her gentle hand on mine, during the remainder of that test.
I distinctly heard Jerry whisper in my ear, "It's not cancer; but, it is serious." All 3 of the just mentioned were dead when I got strength from them. Maybe they were present, maybe I just imagined it...it was my place and what I did. Too bad for you if you don't believe or approve and guess what? I don't care if you do or don't and I ain't looking to force my ways upon you, whereas you constantly want to force all your crap on everybody else. We must listen and obey or deal with your belabored whining.
Yes, you have your grief and it's personal. Others have the same. Some additionally choose to display their emotions or have a need to be with others that experienced the same sort of loss. There are families of people who died in the line of duty (military, fired depts. police depts. etc. etc.) that have regular gatherings, long long after the loved one is gone. It's a form and part of continued grieving and remembrance and their way of moving forward.
By the way, the OP didn't indicate the thread subject was to be about 'terrorism'. They said they were starting a thread to "remember those that lost their lives that day and to honor all the victims
." -Remember and honor.
T2L went on to say it was a horrible day, and didn't want any others (anyone in any country) to experience what happened. You turned it into terrorism. Then again, you turn Mexican men into child molesters, so why should I be surprised.