@XXSpadeMasterXX,
In my opinion.
Marriage is a piece of paper. However, two people that bond and love each other truly, are what marriage is really all about.
And, it boils down to "choice" in my opinion... There has to be somewhat freedom of choice.. If you do good in this World, you have to be worth something right? But, this constant, "have to be virgins" does not necessarily work in today's world of marriages.
So many marriages break down because neither partner is experienced, they find out they are sexually mis-matched, one craves more the other not, one wishes to experiment the other not, etc etc etc .... And, so eventually the marriage fails or else they continue to live in a loveless marriage because with sex, there is no bond and without bonding there is no connection.
Would "God" want people to constantly get divorced?
What do you think he would prefer, that you were bad and had sex before marriage and your marriage lasted till death do you part?
Or,
You never had sex, married and then divorced because you were mis-matched in that department and therefore, she left you........