@FOUND SOUL,
Quote:You are fighting a battle there that you can not win.
I know this, that is why I said...I lose lose either way...Sad but true...
Quote:But, also I feel that you so badly want love that this person in her vulnerabilty you want to save.
I just want her to be happy...
Quote:Here is the thing.
You can not save anyone in that instance, they have to want to save themselves, they have to realise that they are someone..She hasn't.
I agree...
Quote:Do you not want an assertive woman who knows what she wants?
Yes...But her realizing what is happening, would make her an assertive person...
Quote:Do you know what you want?
Yes...For her to be happy...If she is, right now, So am I...If she is not, then neither am I...I do not even care if she was to be with another great man...As long as she was not being held under water...I would be happy about it...
Quote:Money is claimed to be the root of all evil, but then, women want to feel safe, that they can achieve together, in togetherness.
You say you don't need money. But sweet, be it as that is true, if one person works and you do not, would that work?
Maybe, Maybe not...That is why I am just fine with the situation...And just want her to be happy...If she is, then I am...If she is not, I feel for her...I am not concerned about how she feels about me, as in me being the one to open the door for her...If she has to do it herself, I am fine with that...I just want her to be happy...
Quote:What is your future plans? At 30.
I am getting a place soon...And I work with my brother in law, Seasonal...
Quote:Can love alone build a foundation?
Yes, it can...
Quote:Do we not have debts and bills ?
Yes, we all do...
Quote:Do you find someone that is ok, with living for today with the oldern days philopshy of love will conquer all, it is off course possible, naturally.
I would say that trying to make something work, based upon love as its foundation, is still better that being with a womanizer, If they both work, and can afford to be together...I would rather us live in the basement of a Church or something, have nothing, not have an internet to talk, or any money...And have no house or job of my own...Give it all up...Just so that she is free and happy...And if she loves another genuine person...I am sure she would do the same, if she ever realizes it...Or if it needed to happen...To make things better...
Quote:But you need to see this woman, although controlled, has no assertiveness , little belief in self.. And so.. Will remain with this man.. You can't save her and you can't dream that dream...
You are probably right, that is why it is sad indeed for me to think about...And why I am happy we may see each other again someday...
I will never be able too...I would rather be alone, forever...Then lie to another women, as I exist, and be with her...But truly be in love with this women...As I am with this new woman...
Quote:The only way you can save her is to make her believe in "herself" that she is important....
And, I have tried to contact her...But it was abrupted by this other womanizing person...So my hands are tied...Unless she realizes what is happening...I will always feel for her...Because she does not know the truth...I will never interject again, because it clearly has not happened for a reason...But I will never push her to the side, and go looking for another women to replace her...Which I can not do...Anyways...Because my heart is in love with her...
So in that instance, I would rather be alone....