@BillRM,
Quote:That is indeed your theory and if true almost no young man could preform with his first girlfriend as most young men had many years looking at porn and jerking off to porn before they gotten to try it with a woman or a man.
A young man who spent 10 years using porn and masturbation as the only form of sexual arousal and stimulation might well have difficulty becoming fully aroused, stimulated, and satisfied when he is finally with a partner.
What you are still failing to grasp is that for
this particular man the porn may be the problem and, for that reason, the stimuli now provided by a partner are insufficient. In addition, his sexual focus and functioning has been conditioned not to include a partner--his focus has been on visual imagery, internal fantasy, and self stimulation.
Quote:Sorry porn does not compare to the real thing even evil evil evil internet porn.
For some people, particularly those who excessively view porn, or who become sexually dependent on porn, the porn can become better than the real thing--and, thanks to the internet, it's available on demand, with endless variety, and is completely under one's control.
Even Hawkeye is more astute and better informed on this topic than you are.
If someone reacted to the breakup of a relationship by turning to junk food as comfort, and they continued to eat
only junk food and fast food for 10 years, only dining alone, their palate and appetite would become conditioned to higher levels of fat, and salt, and sugar, as well as to the aromas and textures and tastes of such food and snacks, and, when hungry, that's the food they would crave. But now this person is in a relationship with someone who eats a more balanced and healthier diet, so this junk food addict decides he would like to do that too, and he wants to share fine dining experiences with this person. But, when this new partner prepares a dinner of broiled fish, steamed vegetables, and a salad, the junk food addict just doesn't seem to have an appetite--it's not really what he wants, and, it's not satisfying. So, he just sort of picks at his dinner, and goes out afterward, by himself, and gets himself a Big Mac and a large order of fries, and a large Coke, and then he feels satisfied.
Finally, the man realizes he's got to quit the junk food if he's going to change his eating habits and preferences. It's not easy, he really craves and enjoys the junk food, but his cholesterol level is too high, he's overweight, and he really wants to enjoy a healthier lifestyle and a different sort of dining experience with a partner. So, he swears off junk food. At first he is miserable. He misses those fries and the sight and aroma of a pizza fresh from the oven--and he fantasizes about them constantly. But then he stops thinking about them all the time, and he starts paying more attention to the aroma and taste and texture of the food his partner has prepared. He notices a scrumptious garlic, butter, and lemon sauce on the fish and a dynamite dressing on the salad. And a juicy ripe honeydew melon really is a delicious dessert. And the dinner conversation they share is lively and funny and terrific. So, he suddenly begins looking forward to these wonderful meals his partner prepares, and he's consuming them with real gusto. And then he and his partner begin enjoying some fine wine with their meals, and they start preparing the meals together, and the thought of trading in this sort of shared wonderful dining for a solitary meal of a Big Mac and fries on a tacky formica table seems downright absurd to the former junk food junkie.
Even you should be able to understand the analogy between the junk food and the porn...
One can change and alter one's sexual appetites, and preferences, and sexual satisfactions in much the same way. We humans are really quite malleable.
